Trying to find answers!!!……Its all me at Grey cells ……. Unfinished thoughts

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway!!!!!

Posted in Belief, Book, Books, Great thinking, Hope, sucess, Thank you..., Thoughts by nagaje on November 9, 2009

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers is a book that helps people to accept fears and live their life the way they want to live it.  So that they can get away from pain, paralysis & depression… start living with power, energy, and enthusiasm.

First of all we need to meet our fears – “Fear is holding you back from experiencing life the way you want to” then categorize it as per three levels of fear

 1) Level One Fears: Fear that permeates many areas of our life (Those that “Happen” – aging, becoming disabled, etc. and those that “Require Action” – changing careers, loosing weight, etc.)

2) Level Two Fears: These fears have to do with our “inner state of mind” rather than our exterior situations – rejection, success, failure…

 3) Level Three Fears: I can’t handle it! (At the bottom of every one of our fears is simply the fear that we can’t handle whatever life may bring us).

 Secondly we need to realize Fears never go away –  Basic truths of fear are…

 Truth #1 – The fear will never go away as long as you continue to grow.

 Truth #2 – The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it.

Truth #3 – The only way to feel better about yourself is to go out…and do it! Make deposits into our self-confidence bank.

 Truth #4 – Not only am I going to experience fear whenever I’m on unfamiliar territory, but so is everyone else.

 Truth #5 – Pushing through the fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that come from a feeling of helplessness.

  Some quick checklist for all …………

  • We don’t blame others for anything we are being, doing, having, or feeling
  • We do not beat up on ourselves
  • We are aware of when we are not taking responsibility so we can change
  • We are handling the “chatterbox” in our head
  • We are aware of the payoff that is keeping us stuck
  • We are setting goals and working towards them
  • We understand that we have choices in any given situation
  • When we learn to handle our fear, we move from a position of pain to one of power!
  • If you are positive you attract positive people.
  • Seek out for mentors & friends
  • Strive for healthy assertiveness..
  • Appreciate others when they are supporting you & help you grow.
  • Be your own best friend.
  • Learn to trust that we will survive, no matter what happens.
  • Create richness for yourself that nothing can ever take away your basic sense of completeness.
  • Consciously accept what is happening in your life.
  • Tune your subconscious mind
  • Best of all Be Patient

 Last but not least!!  Be the kind of person you would want to surround yourself with.

  • Give Away Thanks
  • Give Away Information
  • Give Away Praise
  • Give Away Time
  • Give Away Money
  • Give Away Love

Cheeeeioooooooo………….

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Gone with the wind!! ……. It kept adding the courage to Live!!

Posted in Hope, Introspection, Movie through my eyes by nagaje on December 28, 2008

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Margret  Mitchell is a great author …… This was the only novel  published during her lifetime, and it took her ten years to write it. This novel won her Pulitzer Prize in 1937 … supposed to have sold more copies than any other book except Bible….. close to 30 million copies sold….

The book was almost titled quoting the end line,  “Tomorrow is another day”; but the publisher at the time noted there were several books close to the same title, so Margret was asked to find another title that became, ” Gone with the Wind “, which again is a monologue in the book where the main characters wonders … if her home was also had ” gone with the wind which had swept through Georgia” ….  but finds that her home stood as tall her courage.

With such an accolade, movie based on this book should be equally worthy and that’s what is ” Gone with the Wind ”  for you….. really a long movie almost 3 hrs 45 mins of your day 🙂 if you are set to watch ……. nonetheless  not a movie to miss.

It has lot more feathers to add to its cap …..  Read about the awards galore here —- Awards

Movie is a Romantic drama set during  American Civil War & its Reconstruction  … Movie opens in to the opulent back drop of cotton plantaion & the idyllic life of the rich & wealthy with parties and gossip .

The strory is woven around the protagonist Scarlett O’Hara who is charm  personified … but as the movies rolls you can clearly see she is epitome of solid mental strength and she tries her best not to be a weakling while batling through life….

As most of Love stories the plot unwinds with strong emotions like treachery, jealousy , conceit ,deciet,  infidelity , betrayal, passion …….. at the same time it also brings the naked macabre scenes of gruesome death and blood of wartime tyranny and the compassionate selfless help that was expected of people… best part, how the royalty coped with it….

Scarlett an vivacious spirit infatuated with a man  [ Who is deeply in love with another girl ] tries to snatch him with her wiked charm…… and just to begrudge him gets married to another friend….. loses him at war time and tries to find every reason to dance & party unable to cope up with widowhood…..Looks after a girl she despised during war… becomes a volunteer to serve wounded soldiers…. when the  war  drains her she longs to go home…. and wishes her home ‘ Tara’ is not  burnt down in the fire of the yankee war…

She sets on a long journey saving a young mother with the infant to her home  to be greeted by the barren land and what is left of home from the fury of the  war …. with most of the slaves gone… Mother dead… father demented… sisters sick with typhoid….. she puts her heart and soul to make home a place to live for for all f them….. she tries to desperately profess her love again… but realises she has lost it now because of the baby …… To save her home from taxes she also proposes to become mistress… But eventually cons her sisrer’s fiancee to marry her and gets hold of the business he was running & makes it more profitable…….. Loses this husband also in an mishap…..

Finally Settles down with a man she begrudgingly acknowledges for wealth & passion ……. Life seems all good as the husband lets her have the best of everything … her home Tara put back into life… has a beautiful child .. great society life again……

For once her husband will be the best one any girl could wish for … but for their own confusions in the past, both can not openly declare the true love and keep daring each other…. She loses her child and the husband grief stricken by the loss … blinded by the doubt he has always on her old flame….. Leaves her for ever without caring the love she confesses ll along leaving Scarlett alone again … in her life that she Resorts to her original strength ……… her Home TARA…..  Hoping Tomorrow would b another day… that would get her love back!!!

 

A great movie ….. I could not tear my eyes off the screen all along…. You bet worth your time!!!

Cheerio………..

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You can Win……… too …… Impresses Anybody….

Posted in Communication, Dreams, Great thinking, Hope, life, sucess, Thoughts by nagaje on November 12, 2008

 

Most of the times Reading a book gives focus on thoughts that are there at the back of our minds … which we generally fail to word….. But as you read through … It sounds Awesome….

Some sentences that impressed me as I read… ” You Can Win ” By  Shiv Khera…. I will log it for myself….

When you go digging for an ounce of GOLD … you have to move TONS of DIRT … but .. When you go digging you do not look at dirt, you go looking for the GOLD

Nagative people always Criticize

paralysis by analysis is one worst disease

Count your blessings, not your troubles.

Learn to Learn

You need to become seeker of GOOD

Foolish people have strange kind of confidance that comes with ignorance.

Past glory and education does not count much… we need to shrpen our Axe.

Persons character is not only judged by the company they keep but also the company they avoid.

Using Profanity is lack of vocabulary, self-control & Discipline.

You need to keep your mind on What you want , not on what you don’t want.

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 Not ‘The End’ as I have not finished the book ….. so ….. Will edit this post ….. as my journey through the book continues  ……

 

Cheerio

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