Trying to find answers!!!……Its all me at Grey cells ……. Unfinished thoughts

Wife – Priceless!!

Posted in Communication, life, Marriage, wife is always right, Woman by nagaje on July 7, 2010

A man came home from work and found his three children outside, still in their pyjamas, playing in the mud, with empty food boxes and 20 wrappers strewn all around the front yard.

The door of his wife’s car was open, and so the front door to the house and there was no sign of the dog. Proceeding into the entry, he found an even bigger mess. A lamp had been knocked over, and the throw rug was wadded against one wall.

In the front room the TV was loudly blaring a cartoon channel, and the family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing.

In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, break fast food was spilled on the counter, the fridge door was open wide, dog food was spilled on the floor a broken glass lay under the table, and a small pile of sand was spread by the back door.

He quickly headed up the stairs, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for his wife.. He was worried she might be ill, or that something serious had happened.

He was met with a small trickle of water as it made its way out the bathroom door.

As he peered inside he found wet towels, scummy soap and more toys thrown over the floor. Miles of toilet paper lay in a heap and tooth paste had been smeared over the mirror and walls.

As he rushed to the bedroom, he found his wife still curled up in the bed in her pyjamas, reading a novel.

She looked up at him, smiled, and asked how his day went..

He looked at her bewildered and asked, ‘What happened here today?’

She again smiled and answered, ‘You know every day when you come home from work and you ask me what in the world I do all day?’

‘Yes, ‘ was his incredulous reply.

She answered, ‘Well, today I didn’t do it…’

Well …. Welll…   🙂

Cheeriooooooooo………..

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Dating a Married woman!! don’t say you were not warned!!

Posted in Divorce !!!, Friend !!!, Insecurity!, Journey, life, Losing..Love!, Love, Marriage, Men, Relation, Woman by nagaje on May 6, 2010

For the man that is looking for a married woman to have some fun with, he needs to be careful.  He may find himself involved with a woman he only wants to have fun with, and end up with so much more. Or, he may end up falling in love with a woman who will always love another man.

 Married women are looking for something to spice up their lives.  They have fallen into the rut of the day to day regime of their marriages, and are bored, neglected, lacking a sex life, seeking thrills, Or she’s just plain lonely and needs to be held, which often leading to intimacy and an affair.

 And then there’s the woman who knows she’s being cheated upon and in her hurt and anger she feels it’s payback time. And so decides to hit back in the same measure.

 If a man can steal another woman away from her husband, even if it’s only for a few hours, he will have felt like he conquered a battle.  And for a man, there is no greater reward.

 Women on the other hand are lacking emotional bonds and are looking for someone that will make them feel pretty, loved, adored, and worshipped even.

 Men will seek out any relationship, married or otherwise, with the initial intent of biological release.  They will connect with women they have chemistry with, are attracted to, and ultimately, want a sexual affair with.  For some men, these relationships evolve into an emotional bond over time. 

 For women however, the emotions come first, the sex comes second.

 Married women that are cheating simply are not clear on what they want, and so they will tell the man exactly what they want to hear. Why? Because women are experts at knowing what men want emotionally, and will give them exactly that, every time, until it is too late.

 You be honest to yourself and your wife before anything happens. You took a vow to love honour and cherish. It sounds like you didn’t understand some of that. Falling in love with someone while you are in a committed relationship only points to one thing and that is that your not committed enough.

 Dating a married woman will open up a can of worms for you is an emotional understatement

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Say right thing when drunk ;-)

Posted in Drinking..., Food, Funny, life, Marriage, Men, wife is always right, Woman by nagaje on May 4, 2010

A husband wakes up at home with a huge hangover. He forces himself to open his eyes, and the first thing he sees is a couple of aspirins and a glass of water on the side table. He sits down and sees his clothing in front of him, all clean and pressed. He looks around the room and sees that it is in perfect order, spotless, clean. So is the rest of the house.

He takes the aspirins and notices a note on the table. “Honey, breakfast is on the table, I left early to go grocery shopping. Love You!”

Totally shocked with the note , he goes to the kitchen and sure enough there is a hot breakfast and the morning newspaper. His son is also at the table, eating. He asks, “Son, what happened last night?”

 His son says, “Well, you came home around 3 AM, drunk and delirious.  Broke some crockery, puked in the hall, and gave yourself a black eye when you stumbled into the door”. Confused, the man asks, “So, why is everything in order and so clean, and breakfast is on the table waiting for me? I should expect a big quarrel with her!”

 His son replies, “Oh, that! Mom dragged you to the bedroom, and when she tried to take your clothes n shoes off, you said, “LADY LEAVE ME ALONE! I’M MARRIED!”

Moral :

Self-induced hangover – Rs 400.00
Broken crockery – Rs 800.00
Breakfast – Rs 50.00
Saying the Right Thing While Drunk – “PRICELESS”

Hey hello I am not advocating drinks….. Just to tickle a funny bone!!

Cheeerio

 

 

 

Marriage !!??!!

Posted in Great thinking, Insecurity!, Introspection, Journey, life, Marriage, Uncategorized by nagaje on April 30, 2010

🙂  I thought I understood marriage!! But world is so full of people with better insights ..

Here is one article that made me sigh and say …. ” oh yeah ….  you are so right indeed ”   A Turbulance Called Marriage

Cheers…..

Women R after all not from Venus…..

Posted in Belief, Dreams, Expectation, life, Marriage, Mutation series!!, Thoughts, Woman by nagaje on November 12, 2007

It’s always assumed that women are the species from Venus!! ……. The Romance world…. Think again….. May be YES !!  for a girl its Flowers …. Gifts….. Soft Music… that gives the Romantic feeling…

but I say she knows where to draw the line….. & ….start thinking from the Grey cells… surprised??? But Ironically, that is the Truth….. 

Men can throw every other caution to wind…..  and sit brooding … though they may do it privately &  in the nights without any audience….  May be even howl like babies to sleep… They pine for their Love….They take longer time to get over their love than women…  

A study at University of Albany challenges  that its Women who aspire for achievements and are more focused than Men There are numerous Women out there who puts Career ahead to any Relationship….

Why is that so???. ……  Women are always preconceived to be recognized because of her relation to men…. Daughter … Friend…. Love….Wife….Companion….Mother…. Nobody  thinks of  women when you say  Engineer ….. Doctor….Pilot….Sepoy…

But think again …… the moment you hear … Cook ….. Maid… Nurse… Teacher….you definitely  visualize  Women….  Is that why  Women are striving to make it in their Careers???? Not in relationships???? 

Something to munch….. on…. relaxed Weekend !!!

Can marriages survive infidelity?? One that is history too!!

Posted in Communication, Insecurity!, life, Love, Marriage, Men, Woman by nagaje on August 7, 2007

People marry for various reasons … But can the marriage strengthen the realtionship or does it provide an platform to dig into the human nature of the partners or even the past to draw a curtain ……..on existing good  Life! …… Sad! Yeah….

Its always right for a girl to confess that she was having affair before wedding they feel that they are being angels of honesty in the act… but on the same score can they really accept the fact that even men could have had affirs? in the same past..

More so bcoz for a man affair is an impule buy… an easy sexual oppurtunity too good to pass up.. a woman may weigh the consequences .. thus a confesssion of infidelity can be a too scary .. it can bring the devil out of a wife .. as she feels the infidelity is a kind of rejection to them..only!!

Most of the times straying out of marriage need not be for sex .. or  wife… It can be her nagging sense of insecurity.. and constant appeal for assuring the love is always there ..can get stiffling too.. Ironically most of the couples have accepted the fact that the heated arguments always end up in passionate Sex.. but it can stimulate lot of withdrawal symptoms .. 

Though men  do not look around for any newer pastures….. you end up being nice to a listening ear , compassionate person.. who gives what men always want .. admiration.. to  everything they do!!.. good ..intelligent.. great in bed.. nice company .. are all the well accepted norms  a man would want to hear….  All this without an ounce of commitment…… for any kind of relation..but believe me they get it too.. loads of them 😦

All they can end up saying is  ” I got Carried away!! ”  “I was trying to runaway from an imaginary problem to end up here!! ”  Nice to hear ??.. Men are too good at saying …….. ‘ why can’t she see I need her??”………. I come home to Good Hug and Hot meal.. Followed by hot meat 😉 ….. I do not want to change my lifestyle for her…….. I feel my life’s getting slotted into hers.. Common quotes??? Huh??…………….. “Men need to be applauded for what they’re bringing to the relationship, whether it’s sexually, romantically or financially,”

 “Often affairs are the angry response of the person not getting what he legitimately wants and needs from the marriage and feeling as if his partner just refused to give it,”……. How can we solve it???Big question??

Simple answer BeOpen .. Be honest… Ask … Don’t assume.. Be compassionate.. try and understand… give it Time.. and more so do not hate!!!

Cheerio………..

Separating!!

Posted in Divorce !!!, life, Marriage, Relation by nagaje on April 12, 2007

It’s  the saddest part of any realtionship…. realtionships are bigger responsibilities and loads of commitment when I say relationship I meant the closest to heart kinds … you know….Parents, spouse, Children, Siblings, Love of life etc.

Divorce is such s simple word but holds loads of heartache attached with it.. People always have attched it to marriage .. and marital separation… But I would say…….No ….. 

I was one among few people who was not shocked to read the news snippet that said a child said he will divorce his parents… Divorce as per my knowledge is the separation  that goes with Love … and Love is relation you hold with dear ones….Separation happens for various reasons …

Can you stop loving  someone??? 😦

On threshold of separation People often say ..I love you in my own way but ….. I am not sure I love you!! anymore?? Ironic !!! No really not!! Tht’s one of the major reasons why people are divorced ! So Love just stops …..is it?? Why does any relation that starts with so much of fire end like that.. Looks like my belief of ” Love comes as a season and goes as a season fits well ….. ” What makes this happen??

 When you really fall in love I guess you are just happy with falling in love …. you do not look into the compatiability .. u do not spend time in understandng your would be life partner.. you do not want to go into those small habits of the other person which can be nagging for life time… you try to look at only the positive things and try to blow them out of proportion and then  jump into relation .. but the days start getting darker as you pull on the relationships that’s for sure a shocker…

Some of them happen on mutual consent.. where both the persons involved are mature enough and are sure that the relation is not going to work .. and pull apart with good feelings treasured… its only when the need for trudging along for various reasons creep into any relationship the things start turning sour… so much that you start fighting … mud slinging.. finding faults … talk endlessly about the mistakes commited in the relation…. Boss that is surely going to mar the face of relationship beyond repair and even if it is ripping you apart only best alternative is to SEPARATE!!!

I do have heard of lot relations that are FINE after separation!!  Hmmm… thts a thought one should seriously look into what makes the post separation meetings get-togethers best??? May be that habitual..part of the human craving starts looking again at what was getting missed all along and one small oppurtunity is like heaven……you love !!! But I seriously do not think it will work unless the people involved change honestly at that which again is a marathon task!!

 I have already said!! Relationships are painful… separation is  more So!!!!

Marriage???

Posted in life, Marriage, Relation, Thoughts by nagaje on February 19, 2007

Marriages are made in heaven and Consummated on earth …but 😉 not always!!!

Marriage, if one will face the truth, is an evil, but a necessary evil.

 Marriage I have heard ………….. “The institution of marriage was begun that a man and a woman might learn how to love and, in loving, know joy; that a man and a woman might learn how to share pain and loneliness and, in sharing, know strength; that a man and woman might learn how to give and, in giving know communion. The institution of marriage was begun that a man and woman might through their joy, their strength, and their communion become creators of life itself. Marriage is a high and holy state, to be held in honor among all men and women. Marriage is a low and a common state, to be built of the stuff of daily life. Men and women are not angels, nor are they gods. Love can become hatred; joy, sorrow, marriage, divorce. But human beings are not condemned to failure………..”

😦 Could not understand rgt?? Same here……….

Marriage is a triumph of Imagination over Intelligence 🙂

So many things said and done ..about Marriage.. But I really do not understand if one should get married !! and if yes , reasons that are being established are really meaningless …

I have heard people say..Parents are fixing up  marriage…. Time to settle down…All my friends are married already… Everytime I attend any function people ask me…..I am eldest of the family …My granny wants to see my marriage…I love so  want to get married.. Sounds cute atleast 🙂  

List goes endless rgt???……I wanted to get married because of societal expectations.. But Now…after long years of NO Marriage…I have realised you need not get married at all…and initially people bother u … believe me on this… they really bother U…everywhere you go.. you are hounded by questions… whn r u getting married … why r U not getting married… Broken affair 😉 ??? etc..etc….It starts getting on your nerves.. and thn your own parents are not sparing you……… they come first in the list of people … if you can sustain this for few years … probably they stop bothering !!!  ha ha ha .. thts an illusion again…..

Marriage for me  is to have a comapanion…. for whatever you want to do…in life’s journey  ..Y?? B’coz…………..” Man is  a social being “…. If you can find a person to do this and you also need to commit to the same extent, Then  I guess life can b a bliss….Which does not happen always…It always ends up being compromise… Y so???..No clue!!!!

” If there is such a thing as a good marriage, it is because it resembles friendship rather than love”    beautifully said.. &  true too….Lets see whr I am going to end up !!!  because it’s the New begining !!!