Trying to find answers!!!……Its all me at Grey cells ……. Unfinished thoughts

Kabhie .. kabhie … mere dil…..

Posted in Dreams, Expectation, life by nagaje on October 27, 2011

not sure… wish I was in different frame of mind…..

samajh mein nahi aata zindagi kya hai… Maksad kya hai…. dil karta hai… wish i was a simple girl with normal life

Are the fears like mostly because you dont know what you want?

you compromise because you dont know what else?

Simply can not throw what i have because i don’t have else

 

 

The Secret of Happiness – Said a friend

Posted in Belief, Great thinking, Insecurity!, Introspection, life, Love, me, Thoughts by nagaje on October 6, 2010

The Secret of Happiness The secret of happiness is to be free of fear. Fear is like a toxin that runs through much of our thinking. It feeds on insecurity, feeling of loss, loneliness, inadequacy and attachment.

You are loveable and loving. Accept this as Truth. Appreciate and care for yourself – truly, deeply, intensely, in a way that reflects your real value. Then you will automatically have the same regards for all other living beings and things.

Cheerioooooooo

Trust??? Trust yourself first!!

Posted in Belief, Expectation, Friend !!!, Great thinking, life, Thoughts, Trust by nagaje on July 28, 2010

If you can believe what you are told is true [Remember!! Truth is NOT relative term] & a promise made will be kept & that the person will not let you down and in case of doubt the person will go an extra mile for you…..That is TRUST!!!! & definitely not four different people 

 Only Time teaches one to recognize a trustworthy person ….. In any case… trust like relation grows over a period …. I’ve been royally hurt in the past yet I choose to trust people, knowing pretty well that I might get hurt again.

How does one gain trust???

Even small lies , such as saying you’re working late when you’re actually having a drink with friends can be disastrous ….Once you get caught in the lie, people start wondering what else you’re lying about.

Never accuse anyone of cheating or lying unless you can prove it to the book. This attitude breeds mistrust…unhealthy for any relation

It’s a crime to penalize your present relationship for the past experiences that left a bad taste….. You need to realize your priority & need for the relationship that’s on your plate… not the spilt spoilt ones……

Remember you chose to get into the relationship with your own volition else you would not be in to it at all…. If you trust yourself, you know you made the right choice.

And BEST part of all If you can not sustain any longer … ….

If Trust is a costly commodity, its time you made a clean exit… Without letting the resentment spread… Don’t let any irritation build up ….instead have healthy conflict.

Take some time to reflect on your standards.

 What are your standards for a relationship?

What standards do you hold for yourself?

What are the values in your life?

What are you known for?

And then…begin letting significant people in your life know.

They will respect you.

They will know you more deeply.

They will thank you for the opportunity to know you.

They will see you as a person of character.

They can count on you.

They know exactly what is behind and within you.

They will trust you…. And that what is need of the hour!!!……

Cheeriooooooooo

Being Alone !!! OR Being Lonely???

Posted in Belief, life, Thoughts by nagaje on July 23, 2010

“I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.” – Henry David Thoreau

Major  reason why many people stay in unhealthy relationships is fear of being alone. They rather get mistreated or be in discomfort than being by themselves. So instead of perhaps waiting for the right person to come along, they grab hold of the person that is available right now. Doing so  overlook some defect of character  just for the need of  company.

Being alone can really just be a state of mind, which can actually have benefits to us especially after a period of difficulty. It gives time  to reflect on what just occurred in our lives. So that stand back and look at ourselves from an outsider’s perspective.  

Most of the times, your personality might be sliding out from under you.  When reflect on your experiences, you realize living a  life with no “you” in it. think of your life as just that — yours.

 Solitude is a way to unwind and put your mind on cruise control. It allows you to put off your problems, your friends, and your colleagues temporarily, and feel at ease with yourself, not to mention stress-free. In short, being alone is a welcome change of pace — especially because you pick whatever pace you want. Maybe now you’ll discover who you really are. 

Take a short break…. Think positive…. Being alone is a welcome change of pace ….. What say??

Cheeriooooo

 

Who stopped your growth????

Always concentrate on present, ignore the past says -Anupam uncle

Posted in Belief, Dreams, Expectation, Get Set GO!!, Great thinking, Hope, Journey, life by nagaje on July 12, 2010

Always concentrate on present, ignore the past One of the main causes of unhappiness is that most of us choose to dwell, or daydream, about the past or the future. We do not wish to live in the present and leverage the most from it. We largely tend to look back on incidents that shaped our lives, most of it in a negative way, and constantly say to ourselves, “What if it had happened this way….?”

If we are not romanticising the past, we are trying to blame others for the way things eventually happened. I have come across so many people who have failed to accept the past; whether it is in terms of broken relationships or lost fortunes.

Unfortunately, none of them could do much about their present because their past always intruded. Depression finds an easy dwelling in the minds of such people. And then things go downhill.

Please remember that the past cannot be changed and the future is uncertain. All that we have is the present. And it is the present that can help us change the future. So the point of it all is to make the most of every moment that is available to us by applying ourselves in a focused manner in the present time. And how does one achieve such concentration? By meditation. I have briefly written about meditation in my tenth column, but I did not elaborate as there is enough literature available.

Yet, the one aspect that escapes many of us is that meditation is not just a calming exercise to be practised in sessions. Meditation is essentially about being conscious of every action that we do in our every wakeful moment. In other words, meditation is about living the moment.

One of the finest sayings I have heard, and whose origin has not been established, goes, “Life is not about surviving the storm, but of dancing in the rain.” In living each moment, we should experience sadness in sad times and happiness in happy times.

Living is not about trying to escape any experience; it is to live through it. For example, we cannot escape childhood and rush to adulthood; it is important to be a child and live through fears, animosities and yes, daydreams. I can tell you from experience that child celebrities who have not had a normal childhood have always felt that they lost out on their innocent years.

So if you are writing, as I am at this moment, immerse yourself in writing. If you are dancing, lose yourself in the dance. And if it is raining, as it might since this is the monsoon season, go out and enjoy the rain. Live and enjoy each moment as if it was your last.

There is an adage in English that if you look after the pennies, the pounds will look after themselves. In a similar vein, I believe that if we look after the moments, our lifetime will look after itself.

This is Write up by  Anupam Kher a renowned film and theatre actor.

No wonder now is called  Present – a’ Gift’

Cherioooooooooooo……………………………….

Wife – Priceless!!

Posted in Communication, life, Marriage, wife is always right, Woman by nagaje on July 7, 2010

A man came home from work and found his three children outside, still in their pyjamas, playing in the mud, with empty food boxes and 20 wrappers strewn all around the front yard.

The door of his wife’s car was open, and so the front door to the house and there was no sign of the dog. Proceeding into the entry, he found an even bigger mess. A lamp had been knocked over, and the throw rug was wadded against one wall.

In the front room the TV was loudly blaring a cartoon channel, and the family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing.

In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, break fast food was spilled on the counter, the fridge door was open wide, dog food was spilled on the floor a broken glass lay under the table, and a small pile of sand was spread by the back door.

He quickly headed up the stairs, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for his wife.. He was worried she might be ill, or that something serious had happened.

He was met with a small trickle of water as it made its way out the bathroom door.

As he peered inside he found wet towels, scummy soap and more toys thrown over the floor. Miles of toilet paper lay in a heap and tooth paste had been smeared over the mirror and walls.

As he rushed to the bedroom, he found his wife still curled up in the bed in her pyjamas, reading a novel.

She looked up at him, smiled, and asked how his day went..

He looked at her bewildered and asked, ‘What happened here today?’

She again smiled and answered, ‘You know every day when you come home from work and you ask me what in the world I do all day?’

‘Yes, ‘ was his incredulous reply.

She answered, ‘Well, today I didn’t do it…’

Well …. Welll…   🙂

Cheeriooooooooo………..

Ten commandments :-)

Posted in Belief, Great thinking, life by nagaje on July 3, 2010

1. The more you chase, the more they run. So attract people to you instead of chasing after them.

2. If you never ask, the answer remains NO by default.

3. If bad happens you, you get hurt once. If you keep thinking about it  in your mind over and over again, you get hurt every time. So start letting go!!!!

4. Spend time with your family. It doesn’t cost a lot… but it makes them really happy.

5. Stay away from telling “I’m not ready for your love because I’m still upset about what the wrong that happened!”……….. life is too short for it.

6. Nobody owes you anything.

7. If you aren’t happy single, you won’t be happy in a relationship.

8. There is no magic pill.

9. Don’t always try to be the hero. You can’t help someone who’s not willing to help themselves.

10. At the end of the day, no matter what you do, you’ll have critics. Just do what you love and what makes you happy, and be thankful there are people who care enough to talk about you.

Dating a Married woman!! don’t say you were not warned!!

Posted in Divorce !!!, Friend !!!, Insecurity!, Journey, life, Losing..Love!, Love, Marriage, Men, Relation, Woman by nagaje on May 6, 2010

For the man that is looking for a married woman to have some fun with, he needs to be careful.  He may find himself involved with a woman he only wants to have fun with, and end up with so much more. Or, he may end up falling in love with a woman who will always love another man.

 Married women are looking for something to spice up their lives.  They have fallen into the rut of the day to day regime of their marriages, and are bored, neglected, lacking a sex life, seeking thrills, Or she’s just plain lonely and needs to be held, which often leading to intimacy and an affair.

 And then there’s the woman who knows she’s being cheated upon and in her hurt and anger she feels it’s payback time. And so decides to hit back in the same measure.

 If a man can steal another woman away from her husband, even if it’s only for a few hours, he will have felt like he conquered a battle.  And for a man, there is no greater reward.

 Women on the other hand are lacking emotional bonds and are looking for someone that will make them feel pretty, loved, adored, and worshipped even.

 Men will seek out any relationship, married or otherwise, with the initial intent of biological release.  They will connect with women they have chemistry with, are attracted to, and ultimately, want a sexual affair with.  For some men, these relationships evolve into an emotional bond over time. 

 For women however, the emotions come first, the sex comes second.

 Married women that are cheating simply are not clear on what they want, and so they will tell the man exactly what they want to hear. Why? Because women are experts at knowing what men want emotionally, and will give them exactly that, every time, until it is too late.

 You be honest to yourself and your wife before anything happens. You took a vow to love honour and cherish. It sounds like you didn’t understand some of that. Falling in love with someone while you are in a committed relationship only points to one thing and that is that your not committed enough.

 Dating a married woman will open up a can of worms for you is an emotional understatement

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Say right thing when drunk ;-)

Posted in Drinking..., Food, Funny, life, Marriage, Men, wife is always right, Woman by nagaje on May 4, 2010

A husband wakes up at home with a huge hangover. He forces himself to open his eyes, and the first thing he sees is a couple of aspirins and a glass of water on the side table. He sits down and sees his clothing in front of him, all clean and pressed. He looks around the room and sees that it is in perfect order, spotless, clean. So is the rest of the house.

He takes the aspirins and notices a note on the table. “Honey, breakfast is on the table, I left early to go grocery shopping. Love You!”

Totally shocked with the note , he goes to the kitchen and sure enough there is a hot breakfast and the morning newspaper. His son is also at the table, eating. He asks, “Son, what happened last night?”

 His son says, “Well, you came home around 3 AM, drunk and delirious.  Broke some crockery, puked in the hall, and gave yourself a black eye when you stumbled into the door”. Confused, the man asks, “So, why is everything in order and so clean, and breakfast is on the table waiting for me? I should expect a big quarrel with her!”

 His son replies, “Oh, that! Mom dragged you to the bedroom, and when she tried to take your clothes n shoes off, you said, “LADY LEAVE ME ALONE! I’M MARRIED!”

Moral :

Self-induced hangover – Rs 400.00
Broken crockery – Rs 800.00
Breakfast – Rs 50.00
Saying the Right Thing While Drunk – “PRICELESS”

Hey hello I am not advocating drinks….. Just to tickle a funny bone!!

Cheeerio