Trying to find answers!!!……Its all me at Grey cells ……. Unfinished thoughts

The Secret of Happiness – Said a friend

Posted in Belief, Great thinking, Insecurity!, Introspection, life, Love, me, Thoughts by nagaje on October 6, 2010

The Secret of Happiness The secret of happiness is to be free of fear. Fear is like a toxin that runs through much of our thinking. It feeds on insecurity, feeling of loss, loneliness, inadequacy and attachment.

You are loveable and loving. Accept this as Truth. Appreciate and care for yourself – truly, deeply, intensely, in a way that reflects your real value. Then you will automatically have the same regards for all other living beings and things.

Cheerioooooooo

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Priority – said a friend

Posted in Dreams, Great thinking, Insecurity!, Introspection, Thoughts, Work by nagaje on August 2, 2010

Your priorities are not determined by what you say they are. Your most genuine priorities are expressed by what you actually do with your life and your time.

Look around you, and you’ll see very clearly what your priorities have been up to this point. Those priorities have brought you to where you are right now.

 If something is truly a priority for you, you absolutely are able to find a way to reach it. If it’s not a priority, it’s probably not going to happen for you.

 You can set your priorities and you can change them at any time to be whatever you choose. But merely wishing for something does not make it a priority.

The priorities that are really priorities are the ones that dictate where you focus your awareness. The priorities that truly matter are the ones in which you invest your interest, your attention and, most importantly, your action.

 You can follow whatever priorities you choose, and in every moment you are constantly choosing. Remember, as you go through each day, to choose those priorities that will bring the special joy and fulfillment that is yours to live.

Cheerz

Trust??? Trust yourself first!!

Posted in Belief, Expectation, Friend !!!, Great thinking, life, Thoughts, Trust by nagaje on July 28, 2010

If you can believe what you are told is true [Remember!! Truth is NOT relative term] & a promise made will be kept & that the person will not let you down and in case of doubt the person will go an extra mile for you…..That is TRUST!!!! & definitely not four different people 

 Only Time teaches one to recognize a trustworthy person ….. In any case… trust like relation grows over a period …. I’ve been royally hurt in the past yet I choose to trust people, knowing pretty well that I might get hurt again.

How does one gain trust???

Even small lies , such as saying you’re working late when you’re actually having a drink with friends can be disastrous ….Once you get caught in the lie, people start wondering what else you’re lying about.

Never accuse anyone of cheating or lying unless you can prove it to the book. This attitude breeds mistrust…unhealthy for any relation

It’s a crime to penalize your present relationship for the past experiences that left a bad taste….. You need to realize your priority & need for the relationship that’s on your plate… not the spilt spoilt ones……

Remember you chose to get into the relationship with your own volition else you would not be in to it at all…. If you trust yourself, you know you made the right choice.

And BEST part of all If you can not sustain any longer … ….

If Trust is a costly commodity, its time you made a clean exit… Without letting the resentment spread… Don’t let any irritation build up ….instead have healthy conflict.

Take some time to reflect on your standards.

 What are your standards for a relationship?

What standards do you hold for yourself?

What are the values in your life?

What are you known for?

And then…begin letting significant people in your life know.

They will respect you.

They will know you more deeply.

They will thank you for the opportunity to know you.

They will see you as a person of character.

They can count on you.

They know exactly what is behind and within you.

They will trust you…. And that what is need of the hour!!!……

Cheeriooooooooo

Who stopped your growth????

Always concentrate on present, ignore the past says -Anupam uncle

Posted in Belief, Dreams, Expectation, Get Set GO!!, Great thinking, Hope, Journey, life by nagaje on July 12, 2010

Always concentrate on present, ignore the past One of the main causes of unhappiness is that most of us choose to dwell, or daydream, about the past or the future. We do not wish to live in the present and leverage the most from it. We largely tend to look back on incidents that shaped our lives, most of it in a negative way, and constantly say to ourselves, “What if it had happened this way….?”

If we are not romanticising the past, we are trying to blame others for the way things eventually happened. I have come across so many people who have failed to accept the past; whether it is in terms of broken relationships or lost fortunes.

Unfortunately, none of them could do much about their present because their past always intruded. Depression finds an easy dwelling in the minds of such people. And then things go downhill.

Please remember that the past cannot be changed and the future is uncertain. All that we have is the present. And it is the present that can help us change the future. So the point of it all is to make the most of every moment that is available to us by applying ourselves in a focused manner in the present time. And how does one achieve such concentration? By meditation. I have briefly written about meditation in my tenth column, but I did not elaborate as there is enough literature available.

Yet, the one aspect that escapes many of us is that meditation is not just a calming exercise to be practised in sessions. Meditation is essentially about being conscious of every action that we do in our every wakeful moment. In other words, meditation is about living the moment.

One of the finest sayings I have heard, and whose origin has not been established, goes, “Life is not about surviving the storm, but of dancing in the rain.” In living each moment, we should experience sadness in sad times and happiness in happy times.

Living is not about trying to escape any experience; it is to live through it. For example, we cannot escape childhood and rush to adulthood; it is important to be a child and live through fears, animosities and yes, daydreams. I can tell you from experience that child celebrities who have not had a normal childhood have always felt that they lost out on their innocent years.

So if you are writing, as I am at this moment, immerse yourself in writing. If you are dancing, lose yourself in the dance. And if it is raining, as it might since this is the monsoon season, go out and enjoy the rain. Live and enjoy each moment as if it was your last.

There is an adage in English that if you look after the pennies, the pounds will look after themselves. In a similar vein, I believe that if we look after the moments, our lifetime will look after itself.

This is Write up by  Anupam Kher a renowned film and theatre actor.

No wonder now is called  Present – a’ Gift’

Cherioooooooooooo……………………………….

Ten commandments :-)

Posted in Belief, Great thinking, life by nagaje on July 3, 2010

1. The more you chase, the more they run. So attract people to you instead of chasing after them.

2. If you never ask, the answer remains NO by default.

3. If bad happens you, you get hurt once. If you keep thinking about it  in your mind over and over again, you get hurt every time. So start letting go!!!!

4. Spend time with your family. It doesn’t cost a lot… but it makes them really happy.

5. Stay away from telling “I’m not ready for your love because I’m still upset about what the wrong that happened!”……….. life is too short for it.

6. Nobody owes you anything.

7. If you aren’t happy single, you won’t be happy in a relationship.

8. There is no magic pill.

9. Don’t always try to be the hero. You can’t help someone who’s not willing to help themselves.

10. At the end of the day, no matter what you do, you’ll have critics. Just do what you love and what makes you happy, and be thankful there are people who care enough to talk about you.

Money – Value !!!

Posted in Expectation, Great thinking, Money!, Time by nagaje on June 28, 2010

A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a Rupee 500 note. In the room of 200,  He asked, “Who would like this Rupee 500 note?”

Hands started going up.

He said, “I am going to give this note to one of you but first let me do this.”

He proceeded to crumple the note up. He then asked, “Who still wants it?”
Still the hands were up in the air.

“Well,” he replied, “What if I do this?”
And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty.
“Now who still wants it?”

Still the hands went into the air.
“My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money.  You still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth Rupee 500/-.

Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless.

But no matter what has happened or what will happen.  Never lose your value.

You are special. Don’t ever forget it! Never let yesterday’s disappointments overshadow tomorrow’s dreams.

” VALUE HAS A VALUE ONLY IF ITS VALUE IS VALUED”

Money is just a means to an end. Sure, it’ll be great to have a lot of money but what we really want isn’t the money in and of itself… what we want is what that money can do for us… what it brings us.

Marriage !!??!!

Posted in Great thinking, Insecurity!, Introspection, Journey, life, Marriage, Uncategorized by nagaje on April 30, 2010

🙂  I thought I understood marriage!! But world is so full of people with better insights ..

Here is one article that made me sigh and say …. ” oh yeah ….  you are so right indeed ”   A Turbulance Called Marriage

Cheers…..

Realtionship matters – small story!!

Posted in Great thinking, life, Relation, Thoughts, Uncategorized by nagaje on April 29, 2010

Once a Junior School teacher asked her students to bring some potatoes in a plastic bag to school. Each potato will be given a name of the person whom that child hates. Like this, the number of potatoes will be equal to the number of persons they hate. On a decided day the children brought their potatoes well addressed. Some had two, some had three and some had even five potatoes. The teacher said they have to carry these potatoes with them everywhere they go for a week. As the days passed the children started to complain about the spoiled smell that started coming from these potatoes. Also some students who had many potatoes complained that it was very heavy to carry them all around. The children got rid of this assignment after a week, when it got over.

The teacher asked, “How did you feel in this one week?” The children discussed their problems about the smell and weight. Then the teacher said, “This situation is very similar to what you carry in your heart when you don’t like some people. This hatred makes your heart unhealthy and you carry that hatred in your heart everywhere you go. If you can not bear the smell of spoiled potatoes for a week, imagine the impact of this hatred that you carry through out your life, on your heart?”

MORAL:

 * OUR HEART IS A BEAUTIFUL GARDEN THAT NEEDS A REGULAR CLEANING OF UNWANTED WEEDS. *

  FORGIVE THOSE WHO HAVE NOT BEHAVED WITH YOU AS EXPECTED AND FORGET THE BAD THINGS. THIS ALSO MAKES ROOM AVAILABLE FOR STORING GOOD THINGS.

STAY Young……. Younger!!!

Posted in Communication, Great thinking, Hope by nagaje on April 13, 2010

HOW TO STAY YOUNG

1.. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay ‘them’

2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down..

3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Never let the brain idle. ‘An idle mind is the devil’s workshop.’

4. Enjoy the simple things.

5.. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.

6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves.. Be ALIVE while you are alive.

7. Surround yourself with what you love , whether it’s family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge.

8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it.. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.

9. Don’t take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county; to a foreign country but NOT to where the guilt is. 1

0. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.

AND

ALWAYS REMEMBER : Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

Worry about nothing, pray about everything!!!

Cheerio