Trying to find answers!!!……Its all me at Grey cells ……. Unfinished thoughts

Kabhie .. kabhie … mere dil…..

Posted in Dreams, Expectation, life by nagaje on October 27, 2011

not sure… wish I was in different frame of mind…..

samajh mein nahi aata zindagi kya hai… Maksad kya hai…. dil karta hai… wish i was a simple girl with normal life

Are the fears like mostly because you dont know what you want?

you compromise because you dont know what else?

Simply can not throw what i have because i don’t have else

 

 

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Trust??? Trust yourself first!!

Posted in Belief, Expectation, Friend !!!, Great thinking, life, Thoughts, Trust by nagaje on July 28, 2010

If you can believe what you are told is true [Remember!! Truth is NOT relative term] & a promise made will be kept & that the person will not let you down and in case of doubt the person will go an extra mile for you…..That is TRUST!!!! & definitely not four different people 

 Only Time teaches one to recognize a trustworthy person ….. In any case… trust like relation grows over a period …. I’ve been royally hurt in the past yet I choose to trust people, knowing pretty well that I might get hurt again.

How does one gain trust???

Even small lies , such as saying you’re working late when you’re actually having a drink with friends can be disastrous ….Once you get caught in the lie, people start wondering what else you’re lying about.

Never accuse anyone of cheating or lying unless you can prove it to the book. This attitude breeds mistrust…unhealthy for any relation

It’s a crime to penalize your present relationship for the past experiences that left a bad taste….. You need to realize your priority & need for the relationship that’s on your plate… not the spilt spoilt ones……

Remember you chose to get into the relationship with your own volition else you would not be in to it at all…. If you trust yourself, you know you made the right choice.

And BEST part of all If you can not sustain any longer … ….

If Trust is a costly commodity, its time you made a clean exit… Without letting the resentment spread… Don’t let any irritation build up ….instead have healthy conflict.

Take some time to reflect on your standards.

 What are your standards for a relationship?

What standards do you hold for yourself?

What are the values in your life?

What are you known for?

And then…begin letting significant people in your life know.

They will respect you.

They will know you more deeply.

They will thank you for the opportunity to know you.

They will see you as a person of character.

They can count on you.

They know exactly what is behind and within you.

They will trust you…. And that what is need of the hour!!!……

Cheeriooooooooo

Who stopped your growth????

Always concentrate on present, ignore the past says -Anupam uncle

Posted in Belief, Dreams, Expectation, Get Set GO!!, Great thinking, Hope, Journey, life by nagaje on July 12, 2010

Always concentrate on present, ignore the past One of the main causes of unhappiness is that most of us choose to dwell, or daydream, about the past or the future. We do not wish to live in the present and leverage the most from it. We largely tend to look back on incidents that shaped our lives, most of it in a negative way, and constantly say to ourselves, “What if it had happened this way….?”

If we are not romanticising the past, we are trying to blame others for the way things eventually happened. I have come across so many people who have failed to accept the past; whether it is in terms of broken relationships or lost fortunes.

Unfortunately, none of them could do much about their present because their past always intruded. Depression finds an easy dwelling in the minds of such people. And then things go downhill.

Please remember that the past cannot be changed and the future is uncertain. All that we have is the present. And it is the present that can help us change the future. So the point of it all is to make the most of every moment that is available to us by applying ourselves in a focused manner in the present time. And how does one achieve such concentration? By meditation. I have briefly written about meditation in my tenth column, but I did not elaborate as there is enough literature available.

Yet, the one aspect that escapes many of us is that meditation is not just a calming exercise to be practised in sessions. Meditation is essentially about being conscious of every action that we do in our every wakeful moment. In other words, meditation is about living the moment.

One of the finest sayings I have heard, and whose origin has not been established, goes, “Life is not about surviving the storm, but of dancing in the rain.” In living each moment, we should experience sadness in sad times and happiness in happy times.

Living is not about trying to escape any experience; it is to live through it. For example, we cannot escape childhood and rush to adulthood; it is important to be a child and live through fears, animosities and yes, daydreams. I can tell you from experience that child celebrities who have not had a normal childhood have always felt that they lost out on their innocent years.

So if you are writing, as I am at this moment, immerse yourself in writing. If you are dancing, lose yourself in the dance. And if it is raining, as it might since this is the monsoon season, go out and enjoy the rain. Live and enjoy each moment as if it was your last.

There is an adage in English that if you look after the pennies, the pounds will look after themselves. In a similar vein, I believe that if we look after the moments, our lifetime will look after itself.

This is Write up by  Anupam Kher a renowned film and theatre actor.

No wonder now is called  Present – a’ Gift’

Cherioooooooooooo……………………………….

Money – Value !!!

Posted in Expectation, Great thinking, Money!, Time by nagaje on June 28, 2010

A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a Rupee 500 note. In the room of 200,  He asked, “Who would like this Rupee 500 note?”

Hands started going up.

He said, “I am going to give this note to one of you but first let me do this.”

He proceeded to crumple the note up. He then asked, “Who still wants it?”
Still the hands were up in the air.

“Well,” he replied, “What if I do this?”
And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty.
“Now who still wants it?”

Still the hands went into the air.
“My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money.  You still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth Rupee 500/-.

Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless.

But no matter what has happened or what will happen.  Never lose your value.

You are special. Don’t ever forget it! Never let yesterday’s disappointments overshadow tomorrow’s dreams.

” VALUE HAS A VALUE ONLY IF ITS VALUE IS VALUED”

Money is just a means to an end. Sure, it’ll be great to have a lot of money but what we really want isn’t the money in and of itself… what we want is what that money can do for us… what it brings us.

THIS IS ATTITUDE : YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK !

Posted in Belief, Communication, Expectation, Great thinking, life by nagaje on April 6, 2010

If an egg is broken by an outside force, Life Ends.. If it is broken from inside Life Begins.. reat things in life always begin from inside.

Its better to lose your ego to the one you love… Than to lose the one you love … B’coz of Ego!!

 Why do we have so many temples , If God is evrywhere?? A wise man said Air is everywhre , still we need FAN to feel it… 

When you trust someone Trust him completely without any doubt!!at the end you would get one of the two… Either a lesson for life OR a very good person for life !!

 Life is not about the people who act true to your face!! Its  about the people who remain true behind your back  …

Soldier :  SIR, We are surrounded from all sides by enemies..

Major: EXCELLENT! We can attack in any direction..

 The  worst in life is  “ATTACHMENT” It hurts when you lose it.The  best thing in life is “LONELINESS” Bcoz it teaches you everything and when you lose it you get EVERYTHING.

 You never CONQUER a mountain . You can stand on the summit for few moments : then the wind blows your footsteps away 

I Hear & I forget!! I see and I remember!! I do & I understand!! 

 The Greatest waste in the world is Th difference between Whar we are & wha we could become!! 

 What matters most is how you see yourself

 

Cheerio……………

 

 

 

Past – Present – Future – Dreams!!

Posted in Belief, Communication, Dreams, Expectation, Hope by nagaje on March 12, 2010

It’s easy to revel in the past glory… But if you want a greater tomorrow you need to dream tomorrow not gloat in past!!

That will be a great road block for the future … only if you can dream and visualise future you can make your tomorrow better.

And best part of all your today will start getting better as you can see the effects of tomorrow Today!!

So Live for future not in PAST!!

Cheerio…

Are you agitated – Calm your mind….

Posted in Belief, Expectation, Great thinking, Journey, life, Thoughts by nagaje on December 15, 2009

Once Buddha was walking from one town to another town with a few of his followers. While they were traveling, they happened to pass a lake. They stopped there and Buddha told one of his disciples, “I am thirsty. Do get me some water from that lake there.  The disciple walked up to the lake.

When he reached it, he noticed that right at that moment, a bullock cart started crossing through the lake.As a result, the water became very muddy, very turbid. The disciple thought, “How can I give this muddy water to Buddha to drink!”  

So he came back and told Buddha, “The water in there is very muddy. I don’t think it is fit to drink.” After about half an hour, again  Buddha asked the same disciple to go back to the lake and get him some water to drink.

The disciple obediently went back to the lake.  This time too he found that the lake was muddy. He returned and informed Buddha about the same.

After sometime, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back.The disciple reached the lake to find the lake absolutely clean and clear with pure water in it. The mud had settled down and the water above it looked fit to be had. So he collected some water in a pot and brought it to Buddha.

Buddha looked at the water, and then he looked up at the disciple and said,” See what you did to make the water clean. You let it be…. and the mud settled down on its own – and you got clear water.  Your mind is also like that! When it is disturbed, just let it be.

Give it a little time. It will settle down on its own. You don’t have to put in any effort to calm it down. It will happen. It is effortless.

He said, “It is effortless.”  Having ‘Peace of Mind’ is not a strenuous job; it is an effortless process!

 
You need not bother OR get angry on the cause of disturbance OR show your agitation on anything else Or do anything about it at all….. Just acknowledge and LET it BE.

It will be EFFORTLESS !! 

Cheeeriooo

Its Difficult — But True!!

Posted in Belief, Communication, Expectation, Giving back, Great thinking, Introspection, Love, Thoughts by nagaje on December 2, 2009

“Apologizing does not mean that you are wrong and the other one is right…It simply means that you value the relationship much more than your ego …”

So Go on… Say ” Sorry” … You gain & that means a lot to you!!

Cheers.

Raise Your Self-esteem

Posted in Belief, Dreams, Expectation, Great thinking, Hope, Introspection, me, Mutation series!!, Thoughts by nagaje on November 5, 2009

Feelings of low self-esteem may be triggered by being treated poorly by someone else recently or in the past, or by a person’s own judgments of him or herself. This is normal.

 However, low self-esteem is a constant companion for too many people, especially those who experience depression, anxiety, phobias, psychosis, delusional thinking, or who have an illness or a disability.

 To help relieve these feelings, let your friends know what you are going through. Have a good cry if you can. Do things to relax. Specially tell yourself — “I am a very special, unique, and valuable person. I deserve to feel good about myself.”

 Self-esteem, Depression and Other Illnesses

 Before you begin to consider strategies and activities to help raise your self-esteem, it is important to remember that low self-esteem may be due to depression. Low self-esteem is a symptom of depression. To make things even more complicated, the depression may be a symptom of some other illness. 

Things You Can Do Right Away—Every Day—to Raise Your Self-esteem

 Pay attention to your own needs and wants.

Take very good care of yourself.

Eat healthy foods and avoid junk foods

Exercise.

Do personal hygiene tasks that make you feel better about yourself

Have a physical examination every year to make sure you are in good  health.

Plan fun activities for yourself. Learn new things every day.

Take time to do things you enjoy.

Get something done that you have been putting off.

Do things that make use of your own special talents and abilities.

Dress in clothes that make you feel good about yourself.

Give yourself rewards.

Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself

Make your living space a place that honors the person you are.

Display items that you find attractive or that remind you of your achievements or of special times or people in your life.

Make your meals a special time.

Take advantage of opportunities to learn something new or improve your skills.

Begin doing those things that you know will make you feel better about yourself

Do something nice for another person

Make it a point to treat yourself well every day

Cheerioooooooo

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