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Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway!!!!!

Posted in Belief, Book, Books, Great thinking, Hope, sucess, Thank you..., Thoughts by nagaje on November 9, 2009

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers is a book that helps people to accept fears and live their life the way they want to live it.  So that they can get away from pain, paralysis & depression… start living with power, energy, and enthusiasm.

First of all we need to meet our fears – “Fear is holding you back from experiencing life the way you want to” then categorize it as per three levels of fear

 1) Level One Fears: Fear that permeates many areas of our life (Those that “Happen” – aging, becoming disabled, etc. and those that “Require Action” – changing careers, loosing weight, etc.)

2) Level Two Fears: These fears have to do with our “inner state of mind” rather than our exterior situations – rejection, success, failure…

 3) Level Three Fears: I can’t handle it! (At the bottom of every one of our fears is simply the fear that we can’t handle whatever life may bring us).

 Secondly we need to realize Fears never go away –  Basic truths of fear are…

 Truth #1 – The fear will never go away as long as you continue to grow.

 Truth #2 – The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it.

Truth #3 – The only way to feel better about yourself is to go out…and do it! Make deposits into our self-confidence bank.

 Truth #4 – Not only am I going to experience fear whenever I’m on unfamiliar territory, but so is everyone else.

 Truth #5 – Pushing through the fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that come from a feeling of helplessness.

  Some quick checklist for all …………

  • We don’t blame others for anything we are being, doing, having, or feeling
  • We do not beat up on ourselves
  • We are aware of when we are not taking responsibility so we can change
  • We are handling the “chatterbox” in our head
  • We are aware of the payoff that is keeping us stuck
  • We are setting goals and working towards them
  • We understand that we have choices in any given situation
  • When we learn to handle our fear, we move from a position of pain to one of power!
  • If you are positive you attract positive people.
  • Seek out for mentors & friends
  • Strive for healthy assertiveness..
  • Appreciate others when they are supporting you & help you grow.
  • Be your own best friend.
  • Learn to trust that we will survive, no matter what happens.
  • Create richness for yourself that nothing can ever take away your basic sense of completeness.
  • Consciously accept what is happening in your life.
  • Tune your subconscious mind
  • Best of all Be Patient

 Last but not least!!  Be the kind of person you would want to surround yourself with.

  • Give Away Thanks
  • Give Away Information
  • Give Away Praise
  • Give Away Time
  • Give Away Money
  • Give Away Love



The Power of your Sub-Conscious mind – By Joseph Murphy

Posted in Book, Books, Great thinking, life, Thoughts by nagaje on September 25, 2009

Simple excerpt from his Book……

1. The treasure house is within you. Look within for the answer to your heart’s desire.

2. The great secret possessed by the great men of all ages was their ability to contact and release the powers of their subconscious mind. You can do the same.

3. Your subconscious has the answer to all problems. If you suggest to your subconscious prior to sleep, “I want to get up at 6 A.M.,” it will awaken you at that exact time.

4. Your subconscious mind is the builder of your body and can heal you. Lull yourself to sleep every night with the idea of perfect health, and your subconscious, being your faithful servant, will obey you.

5. Every thought is a cause, and every condition is an effect.

6. If you want to write a book, write a wonderful play, give a better talk to your audience, convey the idea lovingly and feelingly to your subconscious mind, and it will respond accordingly.

7. You are like a captain navigating a ship. He must give the right orders, and likewise, you must give the right orders (thoughts and images) to your subconscious mind, which controls and governs all your experiences.

8. Never use the terms, “I can’t afford it” or “I can’t do this.” Your subconscious mind takes you at your word and sees to it that you do not have the money or the ability to do what you want to do. Affirm, “I can do all things through the power of my subconscious mind.”

9. The law of life is the law of belief. A belief is a thought in your mind. Do not believe in things to harm or hurt you. Believe in the power of your subconscious to heal, inspire, strengthen, and prosper you. According to your belief is it done unto you.

10. Change your thoughts, and you change your destiny.

Be sure that you think on whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things 


One life to Live / Love?? Proved!! Mehrunissa Khan — Princess of Rampur!!

Posted in Book, India, life, Losing..Love! by nagaje on December 24, 2008

If  you are a Princess…. you do not need any status symbol… YOU ARE ONE!! No proving required!! Proves Princess Merunissa Khan….

I rarely sit in front of  Boob tube… but was glad when I did there was this re-telecast of…. One life to Live…. There she was all grace personified… captivating… with the host of show…. Mehrunissa the Princess of Yesteryear’s…Princess of Rampur at her mid seventies… and still a beauty with translucent skin and chiseled features. 

She’s led an adventurous life across three continents….. exposed to the contradictions  of Muslim, Western, Indian and Hindu cultures….. with her life getting into the whirlwind through a bad marriage in Lucknow, a sudden ticket to London[ to be with brother ], deep love for a Pakistani Air Force officer, a forced fleeing to Spain and at last, an asylum in America.

She grew up in palaces, surrounded by jewelry  & riches, learning to hunt & shoot …….

Like most Indian women of that era,  she was forced into an arranged marriage which was so loveless that it ended in divorce. She went  to great lengths to get divorced.  It was rare for a Muslim lady to initiate a divorce she had to give up the custody of her two kids a boy & girl … Zain & Zaiba

She later fell in love with a officer from Pakistan, Since  Pakistani law forbade Pakistanis from marrying Indians, Pakistan’s President had to change the law to allow them to marry…. but Destiny had worst designed for her  .. her husband had to flee to France and finally took political asylum in US …. he went in to depression and their son got into drugs….  she lost her love …. and son also died at the age of 23 in a car accident!! This was  the second blow life could give her……

Mehrunissa …. the princess with royal blood … fought with desting sprang back into  life …… Started teaching Hindi & Urdu at Washington DC. Her house is still under mortgage but she is not the one to be shaken …. In her own words, “My tumultuous life has shaped me,” …..“I can make things move. I don’t give up easily.” ………  ” I love my freedom and what America stands for,” she declares.

She has tried to put all her life in ” An Extraordinary Life ”  … a good read!!

She shares her apartment with her daughter Mariam ….  She is in touch with her kids from first marriage!!

She wants to study!!….She loves music… She has bought an iPod… She aspires for little extra money..Has great  Zest for life!! She loves to dance  and is very sure her counterparts  sit watching her ready to kill… She wants to meet Amitabh Bachchan…..

 She says she feels like telling GOD I still have long life to live do not take me away…. ” There are never enough years ”  she says…….

 It felt great to see someone achieved so much …. has so much zeal for life… that my Life’s problems started to diminish at   that moment atleast!!

If I can do that in MY Life!! ….

Live life King Size [ Princess Size 😉 ] …. Tall order …. Yeah???

Only Time will tell !!



Some lines I enjoyed reading ‘ Alchemist ‘

Posted in Book, Dreams, That's me by nagaje on September 25, 2007

 Alchemist is a book about ‘Chasing Dreams’……. I liked….

No heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams

It’s the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting.

When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it…

Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.

At a certain point in our lives, we lose control of what’s happening to us, and our lives become controlled by fate. That’s the worlds greatest lie.

Whoever you are, or whatever it is that you do, when you really want something, its because that desire originated in the soul of the universe. Its your mission on earth.

We have to take advantage when luck is on our side, and do as much to help it as its doing to help us. Its called the principle of favorability. Or beginners luck.

One is loved because one is loved. No reason is needed for loving.