Trying to find answers!!!……Its all me at Grey cells ……. Unfinished thoughts

The Secret of Happiness – Said a friend

Posted in Belief, Great thinking, Insecurity!, Introspection, life, Love, me, Thoughts by nagaje on October 6, 2010

The Secret of Happiness The secret of happiness is to be free of fear. Fear is like a toxin that runs through much of our thinking. It feeds on insecurity, feeling of loss, loneliness, inadequacy and attachment.

You are loveable and loving. Accept this as Truth. Appreciate and care for yourself – truly, deeply, intensely, in a way that reflects your real value. Then you will automatically have the same regards for all other living beings and things.

Cheerioooooooo

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Trust??? Trust yourself first!!

Posted in Belief, Expectation, Friend !!!, Great thinking, life, Thoughts, Trust by nagaje on July 28, 2010

If you can believe what you are told is true [Remember!! Truth is NOT relative term] & a promise made will be kept & that the person will not let you down and in case of doubt the person will go an extra mile for you…..That is TRUST!!!! & definitely not four different people 

 Only Time teaches one to recognize a trustworthy person ….. In any case… trust like relation grows over a period …. I’ve been royally hurt in the past yet I choose to trust people, knowing pretty well that I might get hurt again.

How does one gain trust???

Even small lies , such as saying you’re working late when you’re actually having a drink with friends can be disastrous ….Once you get caught in the lie, people start wondering what else you’re lying about.

Never accuse anyone of cheating or lying unless you can prove it to the book. This attitude breeds mistrust…unhealthy for any relation

It’s a crime to penalize your present relationship for the past experiences that left a bad taste….. You need to realize your priority & need for the relationship that’s on your plate… not the spilt spoilt ones……

Remember you chose to get into the relationship with your own volition else you would not be in to it at all…. If you trust yourself, you know you made the right choice.

And BEST part of all If you can not sustain any longer … ….

If Trust is a costly commodity, its time you made a clean exit… Without letting the resentment spread… Don’t let any irritation build up ….instead have healthy conflict.

Take some time to reflect on your standards.

 What are your standards for a relationship?

What standards do you hold for yourself?

What are the values in your life?

What are you known for?

And then…begin letting significant people in your life know.

They will respect you.

They will know you more deeply.

They will thank you for the opportunity to know you.

They will see you as a person of character.

They can count on you.

They know exactly what is behind and within you.

They will trust you…. And that what is need of the hour!!!……

Cheeriooooooooo

Being Alone !!! OR Being Lonely???

Posted in Belief, life, Thoughts by nagaje on July 23, 2010

“I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.” – Henry David Thoreau

Major  reason why many people stay in unhealthy relationships is fear of being alone. They rather get mistreated or be in discomfort than being by themselves. So instead of perhaps waiting for the right person to come along, they grab hold of the person that is available right now. Doing so  overlook some defect of character  just for the need of  company.

Being alone can really just be a state of mind, which can actually have benefits to us especially after a period of difficulty. It gives time  to reflect on what just occurred in our lives. So that stand back and look at ourselves from an outsider’s perspective.  

Most of the times, your personality might be sliding out from under you.  When reflect on your experiences, you realize living a  life with no “you” in it. think of your life as just that — yours.

 Solitude is a way to unwind and put your mind on cruise control. It allows you to put off your problems, your friends, and your colleagues temporarily, and feel at ease with yourself, not to mention stress-free. In short, being alone is a welcome change of pace — especially because you pick whatever pace you want. Maybe now you’ll discover who you really are. 

Take a short break…. Think positive…. Being alone is a welcome change of pace ….. What say??

Cheeriooooo

 

Always concentrate on present, ignore the past says -Anupam uncle

Posted in Belief, Dreams, Expectation, Get Set GO!!, Great thinking, Hope, Journey, life by nagaje on July 12, 2010

Always concentrate on present, ignore the past One of the main causes of unhappiness is that most of us choose to dwell, or daydream, about the past or the future. We do not wish to live in the present and leverage the most from it. We largely tend to look back on incidents that shaped our lives, most of it in a negative way, and constantly say to ourselves, “What if it had happened this way….?”

If we are not romanticising the past, we are trying to blame others for the way things eventually happened. I have come across so many people who have failed to accept the past; whether it is in terms of broken relationships or lost fortunes.

Unfortunately, none of them could do much about their present because their past always intruded. Depression finds an easy dwelling in the minds of such people. And then things go downhill.

Please remember that the past cannot be changed and the future is uncertain. All that we have is the present. And it is the present that can help us change the future. So the point of it all is to make the most of every moment that is available to us by applying ourselves in a focused manner in the present time. And how does one achieve such concentration? By meditation. I have briefly written about meditation in my tenth column, but I did not elaborate as there is enough literature available.

Yet, the one aspect that escapes many of us is that meditation is not just a calming exercise to be practised in sessions. Meditation is essentially about being conscious of every action that we do in our every wakeful moment. In other words, meditation is about living the moment.

One of the finest sayings I have heard, and whose origin has not been established, goes, “Life is not about surviving the storm, but of dancing in the rain.” In living each moment, we should experience sadness in sad times and happiness in happy times.

Living is not about trying to escape any experience; it is to live through it. For example, we cannot escape childhood and rush to adulthood; it is important to be a child and live through fears, animosities and yes, daydreams. I can tell you from experience that child celebrities who have not had a normal childhood have always felt that they lost out on their innocent years.

So if you are writing, as I am at this moment, immerse yourself in writing. If you are dancing, lose yourself in the dance. And if it is raining, as it might since this is the monsoon season, go out and enjoy the rain. Live and enjoy each moment as if it was your last.

There is an adage in English that if you look after the pennies, the pounds will look after themselves. In a similar vein, I believe that if we look after the moments, our lifetime will look after itself.

This is Write up by  Anupam Kher a renowned film and theatre actor.

No wonder now is called  Present – a’ Gift’

Cherioooooooooooo……………………………….

Ten commandments :-)

Posted in Belief, Great thinking, life by nagaje on July 3, 2010

1. The more you chase, the more they run. So attract people to you instead of chasing after them.

2. If you never ask, the answer remains NO by default.

3. If bad happens you, you get hurt once. If you keep thinking about it  in your mind over and over again, you get hurt every time. So start letting go!!!!

4. Spend time with your family. It doesn’t cost a lot… but it makes them really happy.

5. Stay away from telling “I’m not ready for your love because I’m still upset about what the wrong that happened!”……….. life is too short for it.

6. Nobody owes you anything.

7. If you aren’t happy single, you won’t be happy in a relationship.

8. There is no magic pill.

9. Don’t always try to be the hero. You can’t help someone who’s not willing to help themselves.

10. At the end of the day, no matter what you do, you’ll have critics. Just do what you love and what makes you happy, and be thankful there are people who care enough to talk about you.

Pity on self????

Posted in Belief, Insecurity!, Introspection, Journey by nagaje on April 30, 2010

Sob story  

A tale of personal hardship or misfortune intended to arouse pity & A maudlin plea given as an explanation or a rationalization.

Self-pity

 Psychological state of mind of an individual in perceived adverse situations who has not accepted the situation and does not have the confidence or ability to cope with it. It is characterized by a person’s belief that he or she is the victim of events and is therefore deserving of condolence. Self-pity is generally regarded as a negative emotion in that it does not generally help deal with adverse situations. However, in a social context, it may result in either the offering of sympathy or advice.

 People who wallow in Self pity  & go on with Sob stories to attain any ulterior motive….. Like extortion of money [ Small amounts may be ] &  Sex and the likes!!!

 The dynamics of self-less ness and altruism verses selfishness and lust get challenged in a pity-sex dynamic since sex is inherently selfish. Sex is just two people getting off on each other like animals and satisfying their lusts. I don’t see anything wrong with charity and altruism or with someone helping someone in general — so when that gets combined with lust and sex — it’s like I’m seeing a chemical explosion here or something!!!

 If at all anyone needs to help a person….Help them to understand their strength… Help them to understand their capacity… help them to come out of their state… Like…. “ Teaching to FISH “  But guess what we are good at giving Fish for a day!! And let the guy stay in his pit of pity…. I guess that kinda gives an upper hand and feeling of superiority!!

Not sure……………. just a wandering thought!!

THIS IS ATTITUDE : YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK !

Posted in Belief, Communication, Expectation, Great thinking, life by nagaje on April 6, 2010

If an egg is broken by an outside force, Life Ends.. If it is broken from inside Life Begins.. reat things in life always begin from inside.

Its better to lose your ego to the one you love… Than to lose the one you love … B’coz of Ego!!

 Why do we have so many temples , If God is evrywhere?? A wise man said Air is everywhre , still we need FAN to feel it… 

When you trust someone Trust him completely without any doubt!!at the end you would get one of the two… Either a lesson for life OR a very good person for life !!

 Life is not about the people who act true to your face!! Its  about the people who remain true behind your back  …

Soldier :  SIR, We are surrounded from all sides by enemies..

Major: EXCELLENT! We can attack in any direction..

 The  worst in life is  “ATTACHMENT” It hurts when you lose it.The  best thing in life is “LONELINESS” Bcoz it teaches you everything and when you lose it you get EVERYTHING.

 You never CONQUER a mountain . You can stand on the summit for few moments : then the wind blows your footsteps away 

I Hear & I forget!! I see and I remember!! I do & I understand!! 

 The Greatest waste in the world is Th difference between Whar we are & wha we could become!! 

 What matters most is how you see yourself

 

Cheerio……………

 

 

 

Past – Present – Future – Dreams!!

Posted in Belief, Communication, Dreams, Expectation, Hope by nagaje on March 12, 2010

It’s easy to revel in the past glory… But if you want a greater tomorrow you need to dream tomorrow not gloat in past!!

That will be a great road block for the future … only if you can dream and visualise future you can make your tomorrow better.

And best part of all your today will start getting better as you can see the effects of tomorrow Today!!

So Live for future not in PAST!!

Cheerio…

NICE STORY!! Law of the Garbage Truck

Posted in Belief, bengaluru, Communication, Great thinking, Hope, India, life, Thoughts, Tour by nagaje on February 2, 2010

One day I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport. We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us.

My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches! The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us.

My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was really friendly. So I asked, ‘Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!’ This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call, ‘The Law of the Garbage Truck.’

 He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment.

As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they will dump it on you. Don’t take it personally.

Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don’t take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.

The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day. Life’s too short to wake up in the morning with regrets.

so … Love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don’t. Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it! Have a blessed, garbage-free day!

 

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Are you agitated – Calm your mind….

Posted in Belief, Expectation, Great thinking, Journey, life, Thoughts by nagaje on December 15, 2009

Once Buddha was walking from one town to another town with a few of his followers. While they were traveling, they happened to pass a lake. They stopped there and Buddha told one of his disciples, “I am thirsty. Do get me some water from that lake there.  The disciple walked up to the lake.

When he reached it, he noticed that right at that moment, a bullock cart started crossing through the lake.As a result, the water became very muddy, very turbid. The disciple thought, “How can I give this muddy water to Buddha to drink!”  

So he came back and told Buddha, “The water in there is very muddy. I don’t think it is fit to drink.” After about half an hour, again  Buddha asked the same disciple to go back to the lake and get him some water to drink.

The disciple obediently went back to the lake.  This time too he found that the lake was muddy. He returned and informed Buddha about the same.

After sometime, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back.The disciple reached the lake to find the lake absolutely clean and clear with pure water in it. The mud had settled down and the water above it looked fit to be had. So he collected some water in a pot and brought it to Buddha.

Buddha looked at the water, and then he looked up at the disciple and said,” See what you did to make the water clean. You let it be…. and the mud settled down on its own – and you got clear water.  Your mind is also like that! When it is disturbed, just let it be.

Give it a little time. It will settle down on its own. You don’t have to put in any effort to calm it down. It will happen. It is effortless.

He said, “It is effortless.”  Having ‘Peace of Mind’ is not a strenuous job; it is an effortless process!

 
You need not bother OR get angry on the cause of disturbance OR show your agitation on anything else Or do anything about it at all….. Just acknowledge and LET it BE.

It will be EFFORTLESS !! 

Cheeeriooo