Trying to find answers!!!……Its all me at Grey cells ……. Unfinished thoughts

Trust??? Trust yourself first!!

Posted in Belief, Expectation, Friend !!!, Great thinking, life, Thoughts, Trust by nagaje on July 28, 2010

If you can believe what you are told is true [Remember!! Truth is NOT relative term] & a promise made will be kept & that the person will not let you down and in case of doubt the person will go an extra mile for you…..That is TRUST!!!! & definitely not four different people 

 Only Time teaches one to recognize a trustworthy person ….. In any case… trust like relation grows over a period …. I’ve been royally hurt in the past yet I choose to trust people, knowing pretty well that I might get hurt again.

How does one gain trust???

Even small lies , such as saying you’re working late when you’re actually having a drink with friends can be disastrous ….Once you get caught in the lie, people start wondering what else you’re lying about.

Never accuse anyone of cheating or lying unless you can prove it to the book. This attitude breeds mistrust…unhealthy for any relation

It’s a crime to penalize your present relationship for the past experiences that left a bad taste….. You need to realize your priority & need for the relationship that’s on your plate… not the spilt spoilt ones……

Remember you chose to get into the relationship with your own volition else you would not be in to it at all…. If you trust yourself, you know you made the right choice.

And BEST part of all If you can not sustain any longer … ….

If Trust is a costly commodity, its time you made a clean exit… Without letting the resentment spread… Don’t let any irritation build up ….instead have healthy conflict.

Take some time to reflect on your standards.

 What are your standards for a relationship?

What standards do you hold for yourself?

What are the values in your life?

What are you known for?

And then…begin letting significant people in your life know.

They will respect you.

They will know you more deeply.

They will thank you for the opportunity to know you.

They will see you as a person of character.

They can count on you.

They know exactly what is behind and within you.

They will trust you…. And that what is need of the hour!!!……

Cheeriooooooooo

Being Alone !!! OR Being Lonely???

Posted in Belief, life, Thoughts by nagaje on July 23, 2010

“I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.” – Henry David Thoreau

Major  reason why many people stay in unhealthy relationships is fear of being alone. They rather get mistreated or be in discomfort than being by themselves. So instead of perhaps waiting for the right person to come along, they grab hold of the person that is available right now. Doing so  overlook some defect of character  just for the need of  company.

Being alone can really just be a state of mind, which can actually have benefits to us especially after a period of difficulty. It gives time  to reflect on what just occurred in our lives. So that stand back and look at ourselves from an outsider’s perspective.  

Most of the times, your personality might be sliding out from under you.  When reflect on your experiences, you realize living a  life with no “you” in it. think of your life as just that — yours.

 Solitude is a way to unwind and put your mind on cruise control. It allows you to put off your problems, your friends, and your colleagues temporarily, and feel at ease with yourself, not to mention stress-free. In short, being alone is a welcome change of pace — especially because you pick whatever pace you want. Maybe now you’ll discover who you really are. 

Take a short break…. Think positive…. Being alone is a welcome change of pace ….. What say??

Cheeriooooo

 

Who stopped your growth????

Always concentrate on present, ignore the past says -Anupam uncle

Posted in Belief, Dreams, Expectation, Get Set GO!!, Great thinking, Hope, Journey, life by nagaje on July 12, 2010

Always concentrate on present, ignore the past One of the main causes of unhappiness is that most of us choose to dwell, or daydream, about the past or the future. We do not wish to live in the present and leverage the most from it. We largely tend to look back on incidents that shaped our lives, most of it in a negative way, and constantly say to ourselves, “What if it had happened this way….?”

If we are not romanticising the past, we are trying to blame others for the way things eventually happened. I have come across so many people who have failed to accept the past; whether it is in terms of broken relationships or lost fortunes.

Unfortunately, none of them could do much about their present because their past always intruded. Depression finds an easy dwelling in the minds of such people. And then things go downhill.

Please remember that the past cannot be changed and the future is uncertain. All that we have is the present. And it is the present that can help us change the future. So the point of it all is to make the most of every moment that is available to us by applying ourselves in a focused manner in the present time. And how does one achieve such concentration? By meditation. I have briefly written about meditation in my tenth column, but I did not elaborate as there is enough literature available.

Yet, the one aspect that escapes many of us is that meditation is not just a calming exercise to be practised in sessions. Meditation is essentially about being conscious of every action that we do in our every wakeful moment. In other words, meditation is about living the moment.

One of the finest sayings I have heard, and whose origin has not been established, goes, “Life is not about surviving the storm, but of dancing in the rain.” In living each moment, we should experience sadness in sad times and happiness in happy times.

Living is not about trying to escape any experience; it is to live through it. For example, we cannot escape childhood and rush to adulthood; it is important to be a child and live through fears, animosities and yes, daydreams. I can tell you from experience that child celebrities who have not had a normal childhood have always felt that they lost out on their innocent years.

So if you are writing, as I am at this moment, immerse yourself in writing. If you are dancing, lose yourself in the dance. And if it is raining, as it might since this is the monsoon season, go out and enjoy the rain. Live and enjoy each moment as if it was your last.

There is an adage in English that if you look after the pennies, the pounds will look after themselves. In a similar vein, I believe that if we look after the moments, our lifetime will look after itself.

This is Write up by  Anupam Kher a renowned film and theatre actor.

No wonder now is called  Present – a’ Gift’

Cherioooooooooooo……………………………….

Wife – Priceless!!

Posted in Communication, life, Marriage, wife is always right, Woman by nagaje on July 7, 2010

A man came home from work and found his three children outside, still in their pyjamas, playing in the mud, with empty food boxes and 20 wrappers strewn all around the front yard.

The door of his wife’s car was open, and so the front door to the house and there was no sign of the dog. Proceeding into the entry, he found an even bigger mess. A lamp had been knocked over, and the throw rug was wadded against one wall.

In the front room the TV was loudly blaring a cartoon channel, and the family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing.

In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, break fast food was spilled on the counter, the fridge door was open wide, dog food was spilled on the floor a broken glass lay under the table, and a small pile of sand was spread by the back door.

He quickly headed up the stairs, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for his wife.. He was worried she might be ill, or that something serious had happened.

He was met with a small trickle of water as it made its way out the bathroom door.

As he peered inside he found wet towels, scummy soap and more toys thrown over the floor. Miles of toilet paper lay in a heap and tooth paste had been smeared over the mirror and walls.

As he rushed to the bedroom, he found his wife still curled up in the bed in her pyjamas, reading a novel.

She looked up at him, smiled, and asked how his day went..

He looked at her bewildered and asked, ‘What happened here today?’

She again smiled and answered, ‘You know every day when you come home from work and you ask me what in the world I do all day?’

‘Yes, ‘ was his incredulous reply.

She answered, ‘Well, today I didn’t do it…’

Well …. Welll…   🙂

Cheeriooooooooo………..

Ten commandments :-)

Posted in Belief, Great thinking, life by nagaje on July 3, 2010

1. The more you chase, the more they run. So attract people to you instead of chasing after them.

2. If you never ask, the answer remains NO by default.

3. If bad happens you, you get hurt once. If you keep thinking about it  in your mind over and over again, you get hurt every time. So start letting go!!!!

4. Spend time with your family. It doesn’t cost a lot… but it makes them really happy.

5. Stay away from telling “I’m not ready for your love because I’m still upset about what the wrong that happened!”……….. life is too short for it.

6. Nobody owes you anything.

7. If you aren’t happy single, you won’t be happy in a relationship.

8. There is no magic pill.

9. Don’t always try to be the hero. You can’t help someone who’s not willing to help themselves.

10. At the end of the day, no matter what you do, you’ll have critics. Just do what you love and what makes you happy, and be thankful there are people who care enough to talk about you.