Trying to find answers!!!……Its all me at Grey cells ……. Unfinished thoughts

Marriage !!??!!

Posted in Great thinking, Insecurity!, Introspection, Journey, life, Marriage, Uncategorized by nagaje on April 30, 2010

ūüôā¬† I thought I understood marriage!! But world is so full of people with better insights ..

Here is one article that made me sigh and say …. ” oh yeah ….¬† you are so right indeed ”¬† ¬†A Turbulance Called Marriage

Cheers…..

Pity on self????

Posted in Belief, Insecurity!, Introspection, Journey by nagaje on April 30, 2010

Sob story  

A tale of personal hardship or misfortune intended to arouse pity & A maudlin plea given as an explanation or a rationalization.

Self-pity

¬†Psychological state of mind of an individual in perceived adverse situations who has not accepted the situation and does not have the confidence or ability to cope with it. It is characterized by a person’s belief that he or she is the victim of events and is therefore deserving of condolence. Self-pity is generally regarded as a negative emotion in that it does not generally help deal with adverse situations. However, in a social context, it may result in either the offering of sympathy or advice.

 People who wallow in Self pity  & go on with Sob stories to attain any ulterior motive….. Like extortion of money [ Small amounts may be ] &  Sex and the likes!!!

¬†The dynamics of self-less ness and altruism verses selfishness and lust get challenged in a pity-sex dynamic since sex is inherently selfish. Sex is just two people getting off on each other like animals and satisfying their lusts. I don’t see anything wrong with charity and altruism or with someone helping someone in general — so when that gets combined with lust and sex — it’s like I’m seeing a chemical explosion here or something!!!

 If at all anyone needs to help a person….Help them to understand their strength… Help them to understand their capacity… help them to come out of their state… Like…. “ Teaching to FISH “  But guess what we are good at giving Fish for a day!! And let the guy stay in his pit of pity…. I guess that kinda gives an upper hand and feeling of superiority!!

Not sure……………. just a wandering thought!!

Realtionship matters – small story!!

Posted in Great thinking, life, Relation, Thoughts, Uncategorized by nagaje on April 29, 2010

Once a Junior School teacher asked her students to bring some potatoes in a plastic bag to school. Each potato will be given a name of the person whom that child hates. Like this, the number of potatoes will be equal to the number of persons they hate. On a decided day the children brought their potatoes well addressed. Some had two, some had three and some had even five potatoes. The teacher said they have to carry these potatoes with them everywhere they go for a week. As the days passed the children started to complain about the spoiled smell that started coming from these potatoes. Also some students who had many potatoes complained that it was very heavy to carry them all around. The children got rid of this assignment after a week, when it got over.

The teacher asked, “How did you feel in this one week?” The children discussed their problems about the smell and weight. Then the teacher said, “This situation is very similar to what you carry in your heart when you don’t like some people. This hatred makes your heart unhealthy and you carry that hatred in your heart everywhere you go. If you can not bear the smell of spoiled potatoes for a week, imagine the impact of this hatred that you carry through out your life, on your heart?”

MORAL:

 * OUR HEART IS A BEAUTIFUL GARDEN THAT NEEDS A REGULAR CLEANING OF UNWANTED WEEDS. *

  FORGIVE THOSE WHO HAVE NOT BEHAVED WITH YOU AS EXPECTED AND FORGET THE BAD THINGS. THIS ALSO MAKES ROOM AVAILABLE FOR STORING GOOD THINGS.

STAY Young……. Younger!!!

Posted in Communication, Great thinking, Hope by nagaje on April 13, 2010

HOW TO STAY YOUNG

1.. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay ‘them’

2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down..

3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Never let the brain idle. ‘An idle mind is the devil’s workshop.’

4. Enjoy the simple things.

5.. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.

6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves.. Be ALIVE while you are alive.

7. Surround yourself with what you love , whether it’s family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge.

8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it.. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.

9. Don’t take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county; to a foreign country but NOT to where the guilt is. 1

0. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.

AND

ALWAYS REMEMBER : Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

Worry about nothing, pray about everything!!!

Cheerio

THIS IS ATTITUDE : YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK !

Posted in Belief, Communication, Expectation, Great thinking, life by nagaje on April 6, 2010

If an egg is broken by an outside force, Life Ends.. If it is broken from inside Life Begins.. reat things in life always begin from inside.

Its better to lose your ego to the one you love… Than to lose the one you love … B’coz of Ego!!

¬†Why do we have so many temples , If God is evrywhere?? A wise man said Air is everywhre , still we need FAN to feel it…¬†

When you trust someone Trust him completely without any doubt!!at the end you would get one of the two… Either a lesson for life OR a very good person for life !!

¬†Life is not about the people who act true to your face!! Its¬† about the people who remain true behind your back¬† …

Soldier :  SIR, We are surrounded from all sides by enemies..

Major: EXCELLENT! We can attack in any direction..

¬†The¬† worst in life is ¬†‚ÄúATTACHMENT‚ÄĚ It hurts when you lose it.The¬†¬†best thing in life is ‚ÄúLONELINESS‚ÄĚ Bcoz it teaches you everything and when you lose it you get EVERYTHING.

 You never CONQUER a mountain . You can stand on the summit for few moments : then the wind blows your footsteps away 

I Hear & I forget!! I see and I remember!! I do & I understand!! 

 The Greatest waste in the world is Th difference between Whar we are & wha we could become!! 

 What matters most is how you see yourself

 

Cheerio……………