samajh mein nahi aata zindagi kya hai… Maksad kya hai…. dil karta hai… wish i was a simple girl with normal life

Are the fears like mostly because you dont know what you want?

you compromise because you dont know what else?

Simply can not throw what i have because i don’t have else

Cheers

I know. But you put it back the next day.

I was broke. I was really broke.

I’m really glad things are working out for you, you know.

- I wish you all the best.

- Thanks.

You’re not stopping me, I’m stopping me. I love you.

But I’m so scared. So scared you are going to retreat back. You know …..that place …. you’re so comfortable with, that place where nobody can find you.

That’s why I’m coming on so strong.

My wife remarried, she lives in the suburbs.. Beautiful house. Nice. I could never have provided them with anything like that.

I got there, there were my kids, playing on the lawn. I didn’t get out of the car, you know. I just couldn’t…

They looked so happy and all. They got so big. Looked like somebody else’s kids.

I just drove away.

It’s like I lost them, that’s how I feel.

You haven’t lost them, you’re just not ready.

If I ever get another pet, it’ll be a dog. Something you can hold.

I want to kill myself when I think I’m the only person in the world and that part of me that feels that way is trapped inside this body that only bumps into other bodies without connecting to another person in the world trapped inside of them.

We have to connect. We just have to.

Some of us have problems. Some of us have sorrows.

People like you’re so busy telling us what you want you don’t notice the rest of us who aren’t exactly singing Yankee Doodle Dandy.

They made love and for maybe one whole night, they forgot the million things that make people think “I don’t love this person, “I don’t like this person, I don’t know this…”

Instead, it was perfect and they were perfect and that’s all there was to know about it.

Only now, she’s beginning to forget all that and maybe he’ll forget it, too.

I am. I’m afraid.

I’m afraid to be alone, I’m afraid not to be alone.

I’m afraid of what I am, what I’m not,

What I might become, what I might never become.

I don’t want to stay at my job for the rest of my life but I…I’m afraid to leave.

And I’m just tired, you know, I’m just so tired of being afraid.

Cheeeeriooooooooooo

“A person should not be too honest. Straight trees are cut first and Honest people are screwed first.”

“Even if a snake is not poisonous, it should pretend to be venomous.”

“The biggest guru-mantra is: Never share your secrets with anybody. It will destroy you.”

“There is some self-interest behind every friendship. There is no friendship without self-interests. This is a bitter truth.”

” Before you start some work, always ask yourself three questions – Why am I doing it?, what the results might be? and will I be successful?. Only when you think deeply and find satisfactory answers to these questions, go ahead.”

“As soon as the fear approaches near, attack and destroy it.”

“The world’s biggest power is the youth and beauty of a woman.”

“Once you start a working on something, don’t be afraid of failure and don’t abandon it. People who work sincerely are the happiest.”

“The fragrance of flowers spreads only in the direction of the wind. But the goodness of a person spreads in all direction.”

“God is not present in idols. Your feelings are your god. The soul is your temple.”

“A man is great by deeds, not by birth.”

“Never make friends with people who are above or below you in status. Such friendships will never give you any happiness.”

“Treat your kid like a darling for the first five years. For the next five years, scold them. By the time they turn sixteen, treat them like a friend. Your grown up children are your best friends.”

“Books are as useful to a stupid person as a mirror is useful to a blind person.”

“Education is the best friend. An educated person is respected everywhere. Education beats the beauty and the youth.”

  Loads  to learn…

Cheerio

The gap between what you say and what you do, between what you promise and what you deliver, is like a drain in the road. The drain is where water escapes, just as your power will seep away if there is a difference between your words and your actions.

Ask yourself everyday, were your thoughts, words and actions aligned? Ask someone else what they saw in you too. Feedback is the food of all positive change.

Cheerioooooooo

You are loveable and loving. Accept this as Truth. Appreciate and care for yourself – truly, deeply, intensely, in a way that reflects your real value. Then you will automatically have the same regards for all other living beings and things.

Cheerioooooooo

Use below ingredients and marinate for an hour.

Use a cooker and fry some raw spices like cardamom, cinnamon, shahjeera, biryani leaf,Star anise, Onion, Tomato, Curdetc. Make sure mutton is cooked by trying to split the piece using spoon.

Fry some onions in ghee, Keeps aside. Fry some cashews and dry grapes as toppings for your biryani.

Now take a large curry pan. Layer your partly cooked biryani rice or long grain rice with mutton or leave mutton at bottom and add some water.  Cover. Let rice cook directly with mutton.

Have it with raitha. Or simple eat it straight. Use ghee instead of oil for taste. Enjoy. Relish some good food.

Look around you, and you’ll see very clearly what your priorities have been up to this point. Those priorities have brought you to where you are right now.

 If something is truly a priority for you, you absolutely are able to find a way to reach it. If it’s not a priority, it’s probably not going to happen for you.

 You can set your priorities and you can change them at any time to be whatever you choose. But merely wishing for something does not make it a priority.

The priorities that are really priorities are the ones that dictate where you focus your awareness. The priorities that truly matter are the ones in which you invest your interest, your attention and, most importantly, your action.

 You can follow whatever priorities you choose, and in every moment you are constantly choosing. Remember, as you go through each day, to choose those priorities that will bring the special joy and fulfillment that is yours to live.

Cheerz

 Only Time teaches one to recognize a trustworthy person ….. In any case… trust like relation grows over a period …. I’ve been royally hurt in the past yet I choose to trust people, knowing pretty well that I might get hurt again.

How does one gain trust???

Even small lies , such as saying you’re working late when you’re actually having a drink with friends can be disastrous ….Once you get caught in the lie, people start wondering what else you’re lying about.

Never accuse anyone of cheating or lying unless you can prove it to the book. This attitude breeds mistrust…unhealthy for any relation

It’s a crime to penalize your present relationship for the past experiences that left a bad taste….. You need to realize your priority & need for the relationship that’s on your plate… not the spilt spoilt ones……

Remember you chose to get into the relationship with your own volition else you would not be in to it at all…. If you trust yourself, you know you made the right choice.

And BEST part of all If you can not sustain any longer … ….

If Trust is a costly commodity, its time you made a clean exit… Without letting the resentment spread… Don’t let any irritation build up ….instead have healthy conflict.

Take some time to reflect on your standards.

 What are your standards for a relationship?

What standards do you hold for yourself?

What are the values in your life?

What are you known for?

And then…begin letting significant people in your life know.

They will respect you.

They will know you more deeply.

They will thank you for the opportunity to know you.

They will see you as a person of character.

They can count on you.

They know exactly what is behind and within you.

They will trust you…. And that what is need of the hour!!!……

Cheeriooooooooo

Major  reason why many people stay in unhealthy relationships is fear of being alone. They rather get mistreated or be in discomfort than being by themselves. So instead of perhaps waiting for the right person to come along, they grab hold of the person that is available right now. Doing so  overlook some defect of character  just for the need of  company.

Being alone can really just be a state of mind, which can actually have benefits to us especially after a period of difficulty. It gives time  to reflect on what just occurred in our lives. So that stand back and look at ourselves from an outsider’s perspective.  

Most of the times, your personality might be sliding out from under you.  When reflect on your experiences, you realize living a  life with no “you” in it. think of your life as just that — yours.

 Solitude is a way to unwind and put your mind on cruise control. It allows you to put off your problems, your friends, and your colleagues temporarily, and feel at ease with yourself, not to mention stress-free. In short, being alone is a welcome change of pace — especially because you pick whatever pace you want. Maybe now you’ll discover who you really are. 

Take a short break…. Think positive…. Being alone is a welcome change of pace ….. What say??

Cheeriooooo