Surprisingly neither is true!!…… knowing my prattle all the while, I know you guys will read this on too…..
Father — A Big name in a kid’s world ……. especially that little princess who is mostly protected by the ” First Hero ” of her life …. all her young years …. Lots of studies have revealed the fact that a father-daughter relationship has the biggest impact on het future partner ….
But ignorant to this fact Mother is given the highest pedestal in a child’s upbringing …… Its such a myopic misconception we have in our family lives that father is ONLY the bread winner of the family & thus becomes the ” Role Model” only to the boy kids assuming they are going to don the same mantle in the years to come…… and a father is just not expected to know of Teddy bears / Doll houses / Barbie dolls — of their own dainty little doll ……..
A father’s right care can make that ” Fragile” girl really confident to face the realities of the world!! ……… Can U believe Nehru being a forced ” Absent father ” kept in touch with Indira Priyadarshini [ Yeah .... Our Indira Gandhi ] with a lot of letters he kept writing to her from all over the world… from the prison too…. [ All of them have been compiled into a book " Glimpses of World History " ]
A girl keeps observing her Dear old Dad always… funnily enough an ‘ absent father ‘ also!! …
Wondering what it is ?? Read all about types of father in this link ” TYPES OF FATHERS “
Ironically what ever is the kind of father a girl has she continues to “Seek” out to a man who is te replica of her Daddy no matter what he is / was …. this psychology is what makes the presence of a ” Right ” Daddy in a girl’s life more essential…. But again not all are Lucky!!
It is also proven fact that a girl who does not get father’s care becuase of the way he is or because of the absence of a father in her life has her Marital Life doomed from the begining ….. unless a great care and counselling is given by the mother right from the begining …. imbibing the true/strong values of a father even if you did not have one!!!
A father needs to own up the daughter …… alive or dead ….. yeah dead… as the mother will be the true mirror of what the father was and thus father becomes the reason for the whole behavioral pattern of a girl especially her interactions with the men of her life….. and essentially the most important person of her life ….. the husband!! and of course KIDS of her life!!
Even as you read this, your child may be seeking attention elsewhere. If you aren’t there for the child, you are losing a battle you aren’t even fighting. Your child could be seduced by the fantasies portrayed on television.
As a father, you have more power to influence your child than anyone else on earth. I do not mean discount mothers. Atleast mothers try & make the attempt, many fathers don’t. Onevshould be a father who takes an interest in every aspect of your child’s life. This can be done only through being there for the child.
The day of the gruff and distant father needs to be put to rest. If nothing else, a child needs someone to talk to that he/she can trust. Fathers should take this role most seriously.
Why am I thinking…….. all these??? …… I had a great Dad too….. But now all broken thoughts……..
Comments?? Please do not Its just an journey in to self…..
Cheerio…….
….. I do not want to change my lifestyle for her…….. I feel my life’s getting slotted into hers.. Common quotes??? Huh??…………….. “Men need to be applauded for what they’re bringing to the relationship, whether it’s sexually, romantically or financially,”
But at the same time A woman gets compared to mother earth , beauty, patience … Boss U name it and she has it that is the temendous mine of virtue galore a woman has!!
