Women R after all not from Venus…..

It’s always assumed that women are the species from Venus!! ……. The Romance world…. Think again….. May be YES !!  for a girl its Flowers …. Gifts….. Soft Music… that gives the Romantic feeling…

but I say she knows where to draw the line….. & ….start thinking from the Grey cells… surprised??? But Ironically, that is the Truth….. 

Men can throw every other caution to wind…..  and sit brooding … though they may do it privately &  in the nights without any audience….  May be even howl like babies to sleep… They pine for their Love….They take longer time to get over their love than women…  

A study at University of Albany challenges  that its Women who aspire for achievements and are more focused than Men There are numerous Women out there who puts Career ahead to any Relationship….

Why is that so???. ……  Women are always preconceived to be recognized because of her relation to men…. Daughter … Friend…. Love….Wife….Companion….Mother…. Nobody  thinks of  women when you say  Engineer ….. Doctor….Pilot….Sepoy…

But think again …… the moment you hear … Cook ….. Maid… Nurse… Teacher….you definitely  visualize  Women….  Is that why  Women are striving to make it in their Careers???? Not in relationships???? 

Something to munch….. on…. relaxed Weekend !!!

Can marriages survive infidelity?? One that is history too!!

People marry for various reasons … But can the marriage strengthen the realtionship or does it provide an platform to dig into the human nature of the partners or even the past to draw a curtain ……..on existing good  Life! …… Sad! Yeah….

Its always right for a girl to confess that she was having affair before wedding they feel that they are being angels of honesty in the act… but on the same score can they really accept the fact that even men could have had affirs? in the same past..

More so bcoz for a man affair is an impule buy… an easy sexual oppurtunity too good to pass up.. a woman may weigh the consequences .. thus a confesssion of infidelity can be a too scary .. it can bring the devil out of a wife .. as she feels the infidelity is a kind of rejection to them..only!!

Most of the times straying out of marriage need not be for sex .. or  wife… It can be her nagging sense of insecurity.. and constant appeal for assuring the love is always there ..can get stiffling too.. Ironically most of the couples have accepted the fact that the heated arguments always end up in passionate Sex.. but it can stimulate lot of withdrawal symptoms .. 

Though men  do not look around for any newer pastures….. you end up being nice to a listening ear , compassionate person.. who gives what men always want .. admiration.. to  everything they do!!.. good ..intelligent.. great in bed.. nice company .. are all the well accepted norms  a man would want to hear….  All this without an ounce of commitment…… for any kind of relation..but believe me they get it too.. loads of them

All they can end up saying is  ” I got Carried away!! “  “I was trying to runaway from an imaginary problem to end up here!! “  Nice to hear ??.. Men are too good at saying …….. ‘ why can’t she see I need her??”………. I come home to Good Hug and Hot meal.. Followed by hot meat ….. I do not want to change my lifestyle for her…….. I feel my life’s getting slotted into hers.. Common quotes??? Huh??…………….. “Men need to be applauded for what they’re bringing to the relationship, whether it’s sexually, romantically or financially,”

 ”Often affairs are the angry response of the person not getting what he legitimately wants and needs from the marriage and feeling as if his partner just refused to give it,”……. How can we solve it???Big question??

Simple answer BeOpen .. Be honest… Ask … Don’t assume.. Be compassionate.. try and understand… give it Time.. and more so do not hate!!!

Cheerio………..

Separating!!

It’s  the saddest part of any realtionship…. realtionships are bigger responsibilities and loads of commitment when I say relationship I meant the closest to heart kinds … you know….Parents, spouse, Children, Siblings, Love of life etc.

Divorce is such s simple word but holds loads of heartache attached with it.. People always have attched it to marriage .. and marital separation… But I would say…….No ….. 

I was one among few people who was not shocked to read the news snippet that said a child said he will divorce his parents… Divorce as per my knowledge is the separation  that goes with Love … and Love is relation you hold with dear ones….Separation happens for various reasons …

Can you stop loving  someone???

On threshold of separation People often say ..I love you in my own way but ….. I am not sure I love you!! anymore?? Ironic !!! No really not!! Tht’s one of the major reasons why people are divorced ! So Love just stops …..is it?? Why does any relation that starts with so much of fire end like that.. Looks like my belief of ” Love comes as a season and goes as a season fits well ….. ” What makes this happen??

 When you really fall in love I guess you are just happy with falling in love …. you do not look into the compatiability .. u do not spend time in understandng your would be life partner.. you do not want to go into those small habits of the other person which can be nagging for life time… you try to look at only the positive things and try to blow them out of proportion and then  jump into relation .. but the days start getting darker as you pull on the relationships that’s for sure a shocker…

Some of them happen on mutual consent.. where both the persons involved are mature enough and are sure that the relation is not going to work .. and pull apart with good feelings treasured… its only when the need for trudging along for various reasons creep into any relationship the things start turning sour… so much that you start fighting … mud slinging.. finding faults … talk endlessly about the mistakes commited in the relation…. Boss that is surely going to mar the face of relationship beyond repair and even if it is ripping you apart only best alternative is to SEPARATE!!!

I do have heard of lot relations that are FINE after separation!!  Hmmm… thts a thought one should seriously look into what makes the post separation meetings get-togethers best??? May be that habitual..part of the human craving starts looking again at what was getting missed all along and one small oppurtunity is like heaven……you love !!! But I seriously do not think it will work unless the people involved change honestly at that which again is a marathon task!!

 I have already said!! Relationships are painful… separation is  more So!!!!

Marriage???

Marriages are made in heaven and Consummated on earth …but not always!!!

Marriage, if one will face the truth, is an evil, but a necessary evil.

 Marriage I have heard ………….. “The institution of marriage was begun that a man and a woman might learn how to love and, in loving, know joy; that a man and a woman might learn how to share pain and loneliness and, in sharing, know strength; that a man and woman might learn how to give and, in giving know communion. The institution of marriage was begun that a man and woman might through their joy, their strength, and their communion become creators of life itself. Marriage is a high and holy state, to be held in honor among all men and women. Marriage is a low and a common state, to be built of the stuff of daily life. Men and women are not angels, nor are they gods. Love can become hatred; joy, sorrow, marriage, divorce. But human beings are not condemned to failure………..”

Could not understand rgt?? Same here……….

Marriage is a triumph of Imagination over Intelligence

So many things said and done ..about Marriage.. But I really do not understand if one should get married !! and if yes , reasons that are being established are really meaningless …

I have heard people say..Parents are fixing up  marriage…. Time to settle down…All my friends are married already… Everytime I attend any function people ask me…..I am eldest of the family …My granny wants to see my marriage…I love so  want to get married.. Sounds cute atleast  

List goes endless rgt???……I wanted to get married because of societal expectations.. But Now…after long years of NO Marriage…I have realised you need not get married at all…and initially people bother u … believe me on this… they really bother U…everywhere you go.. you are hounded by questions… whn r u getting married … why r U not getting married… Broken affair ??? etc..etc….It starts getting on your nerves.. and thn your own parents are not sparing you……… they come first in the list of people … if you can sustain this for few years … probably they stop bothering !!!  ha ha ha .. thts an illusion again…..

Marriage for me  is to have a comapanion…. for whatever you want to do…in life’s journey  ..Y?? B’coz…………..” Man is  a social being “…. If you can find a person to do this and you also need to commit to the same extent, Then  I guess life can b a bliss….Which does not happen always…It always ends up being compromise… Y so???..No clue!!!!

“ If there is such a thing as a good marriage, it is because it resembles friendship rather than love”    beautifully said.. &  true too….Lets see whr I am going to end up !!!  because it’s the New begining !!!