“Apologizing does not mean that you are wrong and the other one is right…It simply means that you value the relationship much more than your ego …”
So Go on… Say ” Sorry” … You gain & that means a lot to you!!
Cheers.
Restore Positive energy in You
Self healing is the process to restoring Positive energy balance, Especially on days when you feel overwhelmed by multiple demands on your time, or when you feel drained by people and places .
Here are a few simple tips which help boosting Positive energy:
A Quick-fix especially for demanding days. Take 10 Deep Breaths. Make them as slow and deep as you can. Do it as often as you like, anywhere and anytime. Everytime you exhale, feel your body relaxing further.
Feel the earth beneath your feet … If you can walk barefoot in the garden or the park, it would be great.
Rub your palms together and feel the vibrations. Gently place them over your closed eyes. for few seconds as long as you feel the warmth.
Affirmations work very well to raise our energy and to promote feelings of self confidence and joy.
Add a few tablespoons of sea salt or common salt to your bath water. Its another simple technique to pep your tingling sensations on Skin.
Wear white or pastel coloured clothes. They resonate at a higher frequency They give a serene feeling.
Above all….. Be Positive. .. Feel Positive … Life’s very Short after all to Fill in Negative thoughts.
Compilations!!
Cheeerioooooo…….
Detachment !! Love more ??
Detachment—like love, it’s a state of being …Detachment is about the soul leaving everything behind and ‘journeying’ to its Lord.
One of the reasons I took to the concept of detachment like a duck to water was that I was compelled by the argument that,
When you are in love—with a person or a thing—is that it becomes the centre of our inner universe. .Over a period of time that person’s world began to stop revolving around you. This causes friction because that person will still the centre of your universe. Its an universal phenomenon In some way or other, it will change. You are sure to get into depression, you become desperate you feel like running away from everything .. Irony of the tragedy is that you know that is not the answer and is not possible.
Now take a different look at the situation.. nothing will ever change because you want it to change. You need to change …….. nothing in the world asked you to make a person center of our universe that is today making you desolate. Set yourself free… in fact set the person free rather than placing him/ her in the center of your universe binding or compelling them to be there.
Your identity will change your outlook will change the same person can become everything of your life now without confining to the space of your universe. you now become two independent but vastly interconnected people 
There is a saying “Live free of love, for its very peace is anguish; Its beginning is pain, its end is death.”
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Thus detachment is freedom. Freedom from the bonds of deluding and unrealistic expectations in relationships. To be detached is to let go, of that anxiety-driven desperation demolishes you frantically want to preserve.
One should enjoy the beauty relationship without being caught in its possessive grasp. Possessiveness is a poison : whereas detachment lets you stand by yourself & still be an integral part relationship.
It is more about giving space & having your own to explore. By being detached we can get out of that prison if false sense of protection and enjoy the limitless avenue that you can be proud of and soar into unbound horizon . Detachment by itself does not mean separation its just that its more care , faith & courage to an enriched wholesome relation.
Cheers.
Hoarding??? Let Go!!….. Where..?? You should know!!
Sunday…..Busy clutter cleaning time…..with time paucity… I was all hands.. all over my cupboard….my desk…. everywhere ……. THEN … I only heard the clink ….. and yeah…. my room was strewn over by those shining crystal pieces… small ones tinkling whenever the light fell on them… I could even see the red piece … that was once a crystal heart …..
Wondering what I am getting at ?? … Yeah… I had this crystal angel with the red heart in its hands falling off my book rack….. and …. was broken into pieces … I was aghast ….. at the sight of it ….. OR was I really ???
Let me think about it …….. I got this quaint little piece four years back on my Birthday [ You know friends they will try to impress you with anything ].. … … I did not know where to keep it …… finally it found its way on the top of my book rack along with all those little things that share the same space…… Oh …. believe me I have so many such pieces all around my sweet little room… in fact my room is my home… so you can imagine its a small museum by itself !!!hmmmm …. with me as the Masterpiece 
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You find so many such things in my room… an old ticket to park… a chocolate wrapper … a movie ticket …. a parking ticket … small hotel bill ….. bus ticket … you name it …. I have all of them … my sweet little souvenir’s … sounds familiar ??? Welcome to the Fraternity…. of… HOARDERS….. he he We hoard them all …. not knowing where they will be used … and just not getting to trash them …..
Well ….. If I think hard …. I am rather more than happy to clean the whole thing ……. Come to think of it …… most of us keep all those unnecessary old things and never find a reason to throw them …. we keep hoarding them ……. We all do ….. We fail to realise …… actually hoarding– is against our own prosperity …… I have also heard that whatever that can be replaced with money should never be regretted ….
Apparently …… Letting go is not only for the material stuff … but for the feelings and Relationships as well .. I guess that’s where the never-say-die attitude of an average Indian comes to help….. Being able to shrug off and Move on …… U Know …… Let Go …… One can not sit and worry endlessly about what can not be helped or replaced ……
So long as one keeps thinking of old love ….. old relationship ….. harbouring any kind of feelings of …… resentment … hatred …. memoirs …. reproaches …. sadness …. its going to be very difficult to pave way to a new relationship…. If at all one needs to forge a new relationship … one has to create that void… that need …. to have a new one and it is just not possible … until you let go ….. create that space for the new ……..
Not everybody wants to voluntarily part with …… may have to forcibly part with people … What becomes more important is that we need to learn from our past relations ….. we need to understand our own mistakes rather than worrying about the wrong that happened …. and move on to having better outlook on Life ….. Love…. being more positive …. more dynamic …. that way it becomes easy to form a new equation with a different new person……..
Thus for life to give that second , fresh , another chance to Love ….. allow love to enter your life , create that empty space …. . and that is possible only when you LET GO ……….
Yeah I know ……. having said all that … its just not easy …….. needs lot of self drive ….. Lot of Support …. Motivation from around us…. and yeah double yeah…….. Lucky are those who have all the support they need to wade through …….
But
You know what ……. “ When the going gets tough…….. The tough gets going…. isn’t ?? ”
Cheeni Kum is Definitely NOT Sugarless…!!!!!
Hey I saw!!! Cheeni Kum.. was long awaited movie for me in Television 
as I could not get to Multiplex when it was shown all around town.. I would not say I was busy..
I was expecting another Nishabd … but this was a beatiful concept so close to reality … I never knew when the movie got over….
Believe me it was Truly , Amazingly refreshing …… Though all the music Tracks are with some previous references from Kannada / Tamil [ after all Ileyaraja.. has done the score] .. they are still fresh and nice…
N balakrishna has done the best Directing though some initial pieces of movie gets repetitive… but you fail to notice it… Thanks to the Cream of Bollywood stars… The BIG B and Suave Tabu….Brilliance is the only word that can explain the dazzaling performence…. and expressions…. Dilogues were brilliant
I started to dream my own 64 throughout the movie…..
Movie has a great mix of chracterisation…. An ‘Budda’deb .[Amitabh] who is so…strict…who gets angry.. who reacts.. so opposite to the name….
An Cute little Independent Nina [Tabu].. who can be so.delicate.. charming…
An 85 yr old Mother [ Zohra] who lives lif as though it started yesterday…
An sweet little sexy[ Swini] who could give you complex by her thoughts…
A retired disciplined….Gandhian…. Mr.Verma [ Paresh] who loves Bhojan… Bhajan.. Baaji[ Har bhajan singh].. Loves Chicken … and Lords.. for Cricket
Friends of Mr.Verma.. who enjoy Tea & Buiscuit … on his Dharna[Sathyagraha]
Awesome mix of characters….
Best Part of the movie is ……. Though it is said to be British setting all happened in Our local studio… & Old little darling Zohra could even remember her c0-stars dilogues at that age.. Kudos….
It was a Nice way to end my hectic weekend ……
Cheeers…………..
Friend!! Not in my words again …
A friend …… the meaning anybody can understand!! …… But how many of us can live up to it??
Check it up .. yourself!! ………………. Here it goes!!
I can’t give solutions to all of life’s problems, doubts,
or fears. But I can listen to you, and together we will
search for answers.
I can’t change your past with all it’s heartache and pain,
nor the future with its untold stories.
But I can be there now when you need me to care.
I can’t keep your feet from stumbling.
I can only offer my hand that you may grasp it and not fall.
Your joys, triumphs, successes, and happiness are not mine;
Yet I can share in your laughter.
Your decisions in life are not mine to make, nor to judge;
I can only support you, encourage you,
and help you when you ask.
I can’t prevent you from falling away from friendship,
from your values, from me.
I can only pray for you, talk to you and wait for you.
I can’t give you boundaries which I have determined for you,
But I can give you the room to change, room to grow,
room to be yourself.
I can’t keep your heart from breaking and hurting,
But I can cry with you and help you pick up the pieces
and put them back in place.
I can’t tell you who you are.
I can only love you and be your friend.
Can marriages survive infidelity?? One that is history too!!
People marry for various reasons … But can the marriage strengthen the realtionship or does it provide an platform to dig into the human nature of the partners or even the past to draw a curtain ……..on existing good Life! …… Sad! Yeah….
Its always right for a girl to confess that she was having affair before wedding they feel that they are being angels of honesty in the act… but on the same score can they really accept the fact that even men could have had affirs? in the same past..
More so bcoz for a man affair is an impule buy… an easy sexual oppurtunity too good to pass up.. a woman may weigh the consequences .. thus a confesssion of infidelity can be a too scary .. it can bring the devil out of a wife .. as she feels the infidelity is a kind of rejection to them..only!!
Most of the times straying out of marriage need not be for sex .. or wife… It can be her nagging sense of insecurity.. and constant appeal for assuring the love is always there ..can get stiffling too.. Ironically most of the couples have accepted the fact that the heated arguments always end up in passionate Sex.. but it can stimulate lot of withdrawal symptoms ..
Though men do not look around for any newer pastures….. you end up being nice to a listening ear , compassionate person.. who gives what men always want .. admiration.. to everything they do!!.. good ..intelligent.. great in bed.. nice company .. are all the well accepted norms a man would want to hear…. All this without an ounce of commitment…… for any kind of relation..but believe me they get it too.. loads of them
All they can end up saying is ” I got Carried away!! “ “I was trying to runaway from an imaginary problem to end up here!! “ Nice to hear ??.. Men are too good at saying …….. ‘ why can’t she see I need her??”………. I come home to Good Hug and Hot meal.. Followed by hot meat ….. I do not want to change my lifestyle for her…….. I feel my life’s getting slotted into hers.. Common quotes??? Huh??…………….. “Men need to be applauded for what they’re bringing to the relationship, whether it’s sexually, romantically or financially,”
”Often affairs are the angry response of the person not getting what he legitimately wants and needs from the marriage and feeling as if his partner just refused to give it,”……. How can we solve it???Big question??
Simple answer BeOpen .. Be honest… Ask … Don’t assume.. Be compassionate.. try and understand… give it Time.. and more so do not hate!!!
Cheerio………..
A girl & her Insecurity!!
Just another prattle of an Idle mind….A little story that goes with love and relation…..
There is this Boy who is out of home this weekend on a personal/professional work. Girl is pretty much aware of the situation, it is the work that pulls him to go out on these trips but riduculously she starts feeling insecure .
Specially when the girl never meets him over the week not having him around in the weekend should not be making any difference Ideally!! But the fact that both seem to keep weekends busy themselves brings a large disconnect between them for quite sometime, probably. Best part is Girl is more bothered on these issues than the guy!! Not a big wonder rgt?
There is always talk about things getting better.. with more expectations added up … everytime .. nothing turned in to miracle…So it was obvious that they weren’t going to be getting together.
She calls him tells she is finding it difficult to accept that they are not meeting and tht she gets this wierd idea that he does not want spend time with her… He assures her that no such thing infact he wishes to spend time nad at the last minute both plan elsewhere!! She feels he is right & tells him everything is alright now!! She fels good!!
It’s Difficult for the Girl to hide all those girly feelings…. insecurities…. But nature ??? Girl is a Girl … & one can not keep acting to be sane when it is actually not so…..She always feels he does not know what bothers her, or that she is giving this relation too much of space.. or she even thinks the relation is existing only because of her…there is kind of no fire in the relation… She feels the boy is immersed in his own sea of worries…. no time for her!!
He does not make an attempt to call her and Y not! he had his stuff going great … but the girl has this butterflies in the stomach and is sure that something is clearly missing…..
But Now Giril is a girl as I said !! Can We really help her????
Thts another musing….
In constant search for emotional security!!
What’s security got to do with Emotions?? Is that a wonder.. Lemme tell you something .. As long as one feels secure with the emotions not going haywire…. Life really seems Beautiful.
More so I guess emotional security forms the pivotal issue with a woman…A Relationship can give safety with lot of commitment .. uncoditional acceptance.. honesty trust can add up to feeling safe in a realtion..
Sometimes Physical & financial factors create lots of safe feeling of safety.. but they can be bargained aginst emotional feel of safety.
A woman feels sfe with a man who is sure of anything he does and achievess the expected results within the frame of time quoted.. that way she is sure of putting the belief of him…
A woman does not want any relationship that makes her feel ” This is getting nowhere” I can assure a normal girl/woman would do anything and everything for a relation that she feels safe in .. My word ;-) .. She needs to be with her man just to avoid he fear of being alone always its a feeling of safety tht two can wade the stormy waters than one!! Probably thts the reason woman craves to spend more time with her man!!
For a man the reason he love sher.. he is happy with her.. or even wants to see her happy is more than an emotional factor and that need not be the integrity of emotions.
Always woman is ready to wait to find out…if her man has interest in commitment to relation or really feels trapped !!! Believe me guys keep thinking on this note..U know.. ” woman are like electronic gadgets you buy one and realise you could have gone for a better model “ types!!
Man looks at a partner ” who understands him for what he is” and accpte him as he is… If a bit of emotional grip comes from the woman he is in love with …. he starts feeling he should have found someone else.. or literally starts looking out for new person….
A love or a relation can happen when all this is taken care of!! What say?? Not EQ but ES
Fear of Losing ???
I was really concerned about the way people access blogs & info centers with this tag !!
Looks like a large crowd out their is really bothered about “LOSING” somebody!! That somebody I am sure must be the loved one!!
Now Primarily lets understand Y this fear of Losing…
* Believe me when I say If you lose someone that means to say they are not meant for you at all in the first place…
* If Somebody leaves you nad goes thn there has to be a misunderstanding!! Think about IT!! Try and cear out the mess .. No matter who is the root cause!! That is Only If you value the relationship… Even after the honest patient attempt if things do not go well leave it at that Love is something that comes back to you if it is yours… else just ignore .. May be that person is not worthy of you!!!!
* Fear is a physical state of mind that eats up the basic clarity on reason and logic… Y should you fear something?? Think of what can happen if you lose this person??? .. I do understand its easier said than done!! But .. Its worth the attempt!!
* Lifes’s all about Change!! If you have lost someone today.. May be you are destined to meet someone else .. and who knows he/she may be better too!!
Hey !! I Belong to this category!! Do You???
Cheerio.
