“Apologizing does not mean that you are wrong and the other one is right…It simply means that you value the relationship much more than your ego …”
So Go on… Say ” Sorry” … You gain & that means a lot to you!!
Cheers.
Raise Your Self-esteem
Feelings of low self-esteem may be triggered by being treated poorly by someone else recently or in the past, or by a person’s own judgments of him or herself. This is normal.
However, low self-esteem is a constant companion for too many people, especially those who experience depression, anxiety, phobias, psychosis, delusional thinking, or who have an illness or a disability.
To help relieve these feelings, let your friends know what you are going through. Have a good cry if you can. Do things to relax. Specially tell yourself — “I am a very special, unique, and valuable person. I deserve to feel good about myself.”
Self-esteem, Depression and Other Illnesses
Before you begin to consider strategies and activities to help raise your self-esteem, it is important to remember that low self-esteem may be due to depression. Low self-esteem is a symptom of depression. To make things even more complicated, the depression may be a symptom of some other illness.
Things You Can Do Right Away—Every Day—to Raise Your Self-esteem
Pay attention to your own needs and wants.
Take very good care of yourself.
Eat healthy foods and avoid junk foods
Exercise.
Do personal hygiene tasks that make you feel better about yourself
Have a physical examination every year to make sure you are in good health.
Plan fun activities for yourself. Learn new things every day.
Take time to do things you enjoy.
Get something done that you have been putting off.
Do things that make use of your own special talents and abilities.
Dress in clothes that make you feel good about yourself.
Give yourself rewards.
Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself
Make your living space a place that honors the person you are.
Display items that you find attractive or that remind you of your achievements or of special times or people in your life.
Make your meals a special time.
Take advantage of opportunities to learn something new or improve your skills.
Begin doing those things that you know will make you feel better about yourself
Do something nice for another person
Make it a point to treat yourself well every day
Cheerioooooooo
Gone with the wind!! ……. It kept adding the courage to Live!!
Margret Mitchell is a great author …… This was the only novel published during her lifetime, and it took her ten years to write it. This novel won her Pulitzer Prize in 1937 … supposed to have sold more copies than any other book except Bible….. close to 30 million copies sold….
The book was almost titled quoting the end line, “Tomorrow is another day”; but the publisher at the time noted there were several books close to the same title, so Margret was asked to find another title that became, ” Gone with the Wind “, which again is a monologue in the book where the main characters wonders … if her home was also had ” gone with the wind which had swept through Georgia” …. but finds that her home stood as tall her courage.
With such an accolade, movie based on this book should be equally worthy and that’s what is ” Gone with the Wind “ for you….. really a long movie almost 3 hrs 45 mins of your day 
if you are set to watch ……. nonetheless not a movie to miss.
It has lot more feathers to add to its cap ….. Read about the awards galore here —- Awards
Movie is a Romantic drama set during American Civil War & its Reconstruction … Movie opens in to the opulent back drop of cotton plantaion & the idyllic life of the rich & wealthy with parties and gossip .
The strory is woven around the protagonist Scarlett O’Hara who is charm personified … but as the movies rolls you can clearly see she is epitome of solid mental strength and she tries her best not to be a weakling while batling through life….
As most of Love stories the plot unwinds with strong emotions like treachery, jealousy , conceit ,deciet, infidelity , betrayal, passion …….. at the same time it also brings the naked macabre scenes of gruesome death and blood of wartime tyranny and the compassionate selfless help that was expected of people… best part, how the royalty coped with it….
Scarlett an vivacious spirit infatuated with a man [ Who is deeply in love with another girl ] tries to snatch him with her wiked charm…… and just to begrudge him gets married to another friend….. loses him at war time and tries to find every reason to dance & party unable to cope up with widowhood…..Looks after a girl she despised during war… becomes a volunteer to serve wounded soldiers…. when the war drains her she longs to go home…. and wishes her home ‘ Tara’ is not burnt down in the fire of the yankee war…
She sets on a long journey saving a young mother with the infant to her home to be greeted by the barren land and what is left of home from the fury of the war …. with most of the slaves gone… Mother dead… father demented… sisters sick with typhoid….. she puts her heart and soul to make home a place to live for for all f them….. she tries to desperately profess her love again… but realises she has lost it now because of the baby …… To save her home from taxes she also proposes to become mistress… But eventually cons her sisrer’s fiancee to marry her and gets hold of the business he was running & makes it more profitable…….. Loses this husband also in an mishap…..
Finally Settles down with a man she begrudgingly acknowledges for wealth & passion ……. Life seems all good as the husband lets her have the best of everything … her home Tara put back into life… has a beautiful child .. great society life again……
For once her husband will be the best one any girl could wish for … but for their own confusions in the past, both can not openly declare the true love and keep daring each other…. She loses her child and the husband grief stricken by the loss … blinded by the doubt he has always on her old flame….. Leaves her for ever without caring the love she confesses ll along leaving Scarlett alone again … in her life that she Resorts to her original strength ……… her Home TARA….. Hoping Tomorrow would b another day… that would get her love back!!!
A great movie ….. I could not tear my eyes off the screen all along…. You bet worth your time!!!
Cheerio………..
Losing??…… Father??
Everything in Life loses meaning …… when you lose the very reason for existance of life …… Each day starts with a gloom and each night unfolds dreary, dark , endless unfathomable journey into yourself ….. where all you can feel is the numbness ……. I stare into nothingness that is spread in front of my eyes so vast that I see nothing else!!
When I sit howling into the night alone … I wonder where did all the years go?? I never realised I spent ages without looking at myself in the mirror… It was the attachments / commitments / relationships that formed the very purpose of my being…….
When you lose the elixir of life…….. the main relationship what do you do?? I am yet to find answeres …. I am struggling to face the same question every day that hits me fresh… What went wrong?? Why did I lose?? What do I do?? What next?? endless Sea of conflicts that arise in me!!
My father was World to me….. Life’s day began with him… & ended for him …… But the void that is created now is a bottomless pit……. that is filled with despair….. how am I going to cope with it???
A loss can create another loss!!!! Surprised no….. Not able to come to terms with what I am going through… I started desperately falling back on everything I had …… every small thing…..believe me WWW is the best gift to mankind if you know how to use it…….
I sit Googling [ Another life saving aide] just to see how the world takes pain …. how the world copes with it all ….searching for the virtual brethren …. Hoping to minimise my pain pangs reading about others suffering ….. Accepting loss as the world is full of people like me…….
Can you read pain?? here?? I don’t know if you can…… pain is only felt….. unless you have already gone through the similar loss….. I don’t know….
I was on one such journey into the virtual world.. trying to understand other’s sufferings so that I can forget my loss atleast momentarily….. I read this heart tearing story of a father [ and here Iwas trying to forget the loss of a father..... I was extra curios to understand how father's take loss!!! ]
This guy was fighting a legal battle for the custody of his beautiful little princesses [ I am fighting the loss of ownership of a father ] and when the judiciary system failed to show him justice ……. he could not take the loss ….. he killed the kids on the visitation day and hanged himself ……
NEWS : Father killed children after losing custody!!
A man who is believed to have smothered his two young daughters while they were on a weekend custody visit telephoned their mother to say “the children have gone to sleep forever” before killing himself, it emerged last night
Is that the way to cope with grief???? Can I do it too ?? Who ?? How ?? Where?? When?? ………A lot of new unanswered questions to add to the bandwagon…….
Where does this end ?????…………. Will it End ??? Agony!!!
Hmmm…. Not all want to be happy!!
How many of us Love Complaining…..??? Most of us… U know !! It’s most easy to say ….
Hey.. I have a running Nose!!….. Now … what can your audience do to your Nose unless he’s a doctor.. …yeah???
But we all love to make silly complaints all along the day …. No matter who we are with.. right????
Can we for a while think sit back and analyze … Nobody including us do not want to hear complaints … unless we are complainers.. too ….
By complaining we are not only spreading negative thoughts to the other person.. and also we are worsening our situation by consciously thinking more about it.. That is spreading the negative energy around us….
Can we not make a conscious effort to talk only positive things so that we can make our environment also filled with the positive energy … that increase our potential and also the fact that we are improving the audience’s mind set also by forcing to make him look at only positive thoughts …
Just give this a try .. and see how the world around us can become beautiful …….
Cheeriooo…….
Life’s day is after all how we look at it !!
I am just talking about every day outlook of our lives…. I guess day starts when you wake up .. if at all you really want to wake up to the morning…
I am sure morning is great if you know how to wake up early… even in cities you hear some chirping birds and those fresh soft smell of the morning breeze with dew around little vegetation that grows everywhere
Sun really shines good… you get the warmth of golden rays streaming through those trees u can see along the road side…
People are good by nature… u smile at them u will surely get a smile back…..
Some of us are fortunate enough that we need not work on empty stomach…are we thankful??
We all do have some kind of bonding with other living being… who really understand us….What do we give back??
Few lucky ones have luxuries of life too… Are we satisfied?? Do we think of other less fortunate fellow living beings??
We get loved.. how surely do we love them back???
Nature all about beauty .. are we considerate???
So many thoughts …
Unanswered queries……. Inner turmoil of confusions….. Self attested benchmark yet to be reached!!!
Hmmmmm………………………..
Me … Myself… Introspection??
Too damn difficult to look at self… think of right positives 
and all the negatives!! Huh … tiresome indeed…. Do we ever judge ourseleves?? We DON’T!!!
But scuttlebutt others??? we are glad to do!!
I have read this saying ‘ When you judge others, you are judging yourself ‘ Going overboard?? Don’t worry it was not meant for U
Some traits I find bad about me….
# I believe in my gut feeling so much that sometimes I instantly dislike a person the moment I meet them….
# When I don’t know what else to do.. I am extremely depressed.
# I can be too damn COLD when I have unknown worry on my mind…
# I am too unpredictable!!
# I don’t trust … I give up easily!!
# I am very opinionated!!
# I don’t forgive and forget easily!!
# I am always on worry boat!!
# I take unknown guilt trips..
# I can be melodramatic
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Hey that was too harsh a judgement on myself so will not go any further!!!
