Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway!!!!!

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers is a book that helps people to accept fears and live their life the way they want to live it.  So that they can get away from pain, paralysis & depression… start living with power, energy, and enthusiasm.

First of all we need to meet our fears – “Fear is holding you back from experiencing life the way you want to” then categorize it as per three levels of fear

 1) Level One Fears: Fear that permeates many areas of our life (Those that “Happen” – aging, becoming disabled, etc. and those that “Require Action” – changing careers, loosing weight, etc.)

2) Level Two Fears: These fears have to do with our “inner state of mind” rather than our exterior situations – rejection, success, failure…

 3) Level Three Fears: I can’t handle it! (At the bottom of every one of our fears is simply the fear that we can’t handle whatever life may bring us).

 Secondly we need to realize Fears never go away -  Basic truths of fear are…

 Truth #1 – The fear will never go away as long as you continue to grow.

 Truth #2 – The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it.

Truth #3 – The only way to feel better about yourself is to go out…and do it! Make deposits into our self-confidence bank.

 Truth #4 – Not only am I going to experience fear whenever I’m on unfamiliar territory, but so is everyone else.

 Truth #5 – Pushing through the fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that come from a feeling of helplessness.

  Some quick checklist for all …………

• We don’t blame others for anything we are being, doing, having, or feeling
• We do not beat up on ourselves
• We are aware of when we are not taking responsibility so we can change
• We are handling the “chatterbox” in our head
• We are aware of the payoff that is keeping us stuck
• We are setting goals and working towards them
• We understand that we have choices in any given situation
• When we learn to handle our fear, we move from a position of pain to one of power!
• If you are positive you attract positive people.
• Seek out for mentors & friends
• Strive for healthy assertiveness..
• Appreciate others when they are supporting you & help you grow.
• Be your own best friend.
• Learn to trust that we will survive, no matter what happens.
• Create richness for yourself that nothing can ever take away your basic sense of completeness.
• Consciously accept what is happening in your life.
• Tune your subconscious mind
• Best of all Be Patient

 Last but not least!!  Be the kind of person you would want to surround yourself with.

• Give Away Thanks
• Give Away Information
• Give Away Praise
• Give Away Time
• Give Away Money
• Give Away Love

Cheeeeioooooooo………….

Raise Your Self-esteem

Feelings of low self-esteem may be triggered by being treated poorly by someone else recently or in the past, or by a person’s own judgments of him or herself. This is normal.

 However, low self-esteem is a constant companion for too many people, especially those who experience depression, anxiety, phobias, psychosis, delusional thinking, or who have an illness or a disability.

 To help relieve these feelings, let your friends know what you are going through. Have a good cry if you can. Do things to relax. Specially tell yourself — “I am a very special, unique, and valuable person. I deserve to feel good about myself.”

 Self-esteem, Depression and Other Illnesses

 Before you begin to consider strategies and activities to help raise your self-esteem, it is important to remember that low self-esteem may be due to depression. Low self-esteem is a symptom of depression. To make things even more complicated, the depression may be a symptom of some other illness. 

Things You Can Do Right Away—Every Day—to Raise Your Self-esteem

 Pay attention to your own needs and wants.

Take very good care of yourself.

Eat healthy foods and avoid junk foods

Exercise.

Do personal hygiene tasks that make you feel better about yourself

Have a physical examination every year to make sure you are in good  health.

Plan fun activities for yourself. Learn new things every day.

Take time to do things you enjoy.

Get something done that you have been putting off.

Do things that make use of your own special talents and abilities.

Dress in clothes that make you feel good about yourself.

Give yourself rewards.

Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself

Make your living space a place that honors the person you are.

Display items that you find attractive or that remind you of your achievements or of special times or people in your life.

Make your meals a special time.

Take advantage of opportunities to learn something new or improve your skills.

Begin doing those things that you know will make you feel better about yourself

Do something nice for another person

Make it a point to treat yourself well every day

Cheerioooooooo

101 – Affirmations By RichGrad

What are affirmations??

Every thought you think every word you say is an affirmation All of our self-talk or inner dialogue is a stream of affirmations. We are continually affirming subconsciously with our words and thoughts and this flow of affirmations is creating our life experience in every moment.

Positive Affirmations!!

Positive affirmations and positive thinking techniques can help develop a powerful and positive attitude to life; which is an essential element in life success and good health. With this power you can turn failure around into success and take success and drive it to a whole new level. Your positive attitude is the fuel for your success.

Some of the  positive affirmations you can use in your daily life

 

Affirmations for Healthy Weight and Body Image:

- Today I love my body fully, deeply and joyfully.

- My body has its own wisdom and I trust that wisdom completely.

- My body is simply a projection of my beliefs about myself.

- I am growing more beautiful and luminous day by day.

- I choose to see the divine perfection in every cell of my body.

- As I love myself, I allow others to love me too.

- Flaws are transformed by love and acceptance.

- Today I choose to honor my beauty, my strength and my uniqueness.

- I love the way I feel when I take good care of myself.

- Today my own well-being is my top priority.

Affirmations for Self-Confidence and Self-Belief:

- Fear is only a feeling; it cannot hold me back.

- I know that I can master anything if I do it enough times.

- Today I am willing to fail in order to succeed.

- I believe that I have the strength to make my dreams come true.

- I’m going to relax and have fun with this, no matter what the outcome may be.

- I’m proud of myself for even daring to try; many people won’t even do that!

- Today I put my full trust in my inner guidance.

- I grow in strength with every forward step I take.

- I release my hesitation and make room for victory!

- With a solid plan and a belief in myself, there’s nothing I can’t do.

Affirmations for Abundance and Prosperity:

- I open to the flow of great abundance in all areas of my life.

- I always have more than enough of everything I need.

- Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you!

- Today I expand my awareness of the abundance all around me.

- I allow the universe to bless me in surprising and joyful ways.

- My grateful heart is a magnet that attracts more of everything I desire.

- Prosperity surrounds me, prosperity fills me, prosperity flows to me and through me.

- I exude passion, purpose and prosperity.

- I am always led to the people who need what I have to offer.

- As my commitment to help others grows, so does my wealth.

- My day is filled with limitless potential in joy, abundance and love.

Affirmations for Life Purpose:

- The better I know myself, the clearer my purpose becomes.

- My unique skills and talents can make a profound difference in the world.

- Today I follow my heart and discover my destiny.

- I am meant to do great things.

- I am limited only by my vision of what is possible.

- My purpose is to develop and share the best parts of myself with others.

- Today I present my love, passion, talent and joy as a gift to the world.

- I need not know the entire journey in order to take one step.

- I fulfill my life purpose by starting here, right now.

- My life purpose can be whatever I decide to make it.

Affirmations for Inner Peace:

- All is well, right here, right now.

- Peace begins with a conscious choice.

- Today I embrace simplicity, peace and solace.

- A peaceful heart makes for a peaceful life.

- I trust the universe to deliver my highest good in every situation.

- By becoming peace, I create peace in every experience.

- I am filled with the light of love, peace and joy.

- Peace comes when I let go of trying to control every tiny detail.

- Where peace dwells, fear cannot.

- Today my mission is to surrender and release.

Affirmations for Opportunity:

- Today I open my mind to the endless opportunities surrounding me.

- Opportunities are everywhere, if I choose to see them.

- I boldly act on great opportunities when I see them.

- My intuition leads me to the most lucrative opportunities.

- An opportunity is simply a possibility until I act on it.

- Some of the best opportunities are made, not found.

- Today I see each moment as a new opportunity to express my greatness.

- I expand my awareness of the hidden potential in each experience.

- Let each of my experiences today be a gateway to something even better.

- Each decision I make creates new opportunities.

Affirmations for Love:

- I am ready for a healthy, loving relationship.

- All of my relationships are meaningful and fulfilling.

- As I share my love with others the universe mirrors love back to me.

- I see everyone I meet as a soul mate.

- I trust the universe to know the type of partner who is perfect for me.

- Today I release fear and open my heart to true love.

- I am grateful for the people in my life.

- I am the perfect partner for my perfect partner.

- I deserve a loving, healthy relationship.

- I deserve to be loved and I allow myself to be loved.

Affirmations for Healing:

- I am strong and healthy.

- My energy and vitality are increasing every day.

- I open to the natural flow of wellness now.

- My inner guidance leads me to the right healing modalities for me.

- Abundant health and wellness are my birthright.

- Thank you for my strength, my health and my vitality.

- I am feeling stronger and better now.

- I love taking good care of myself.

- Today nurturing myself is my highest priority.

- Thank you for the opportunity to balance my mind, body and spirit.

Affirmations for Inner Clarity:

- Today I awaken to my higher wisdom.

- My inner voice guides me in every moment.

- I am centered, calm and clear.

- I always know the right actions to achieve my goals.

- When I know where I’m going, getting there is a cinch!

- Today I am completely tuned in to my inner wisdom.

- Harmony is always a sign that I am balanced from within.

- Thank you for showing me the way to my dreams.

- I trust my feelings and insights.

- I am detached and open to divine guidance.

Affirmations for Self-Love:

- I am filled with light, love and peace.

- I treat myself with kindness and respect.

- I don’t have to be perfect; I just have to be me.

- I give myself permission to shine.

- I honor the best parts of myself and share them with others.

- I’m proud of all I have accomplished.

- Today I give myself permission to be greater than my fears.

- I love myself no matter what.

- I am my own best friend and cheerleader.

- Thank you for the qualities, traits and talents that make me so unique

 

I look forward to hearing about all the positive changes you’re about to experience.

 

Cheerio………………

Gone with the wind!! ……. It kept adding the courage to Live!!

Margret  Mitchell is a great author …… This was the only novel  published during her lifetime, and it took her ten years to write it. This novel won her Pulitzer Prize in 1937 … supposed to have sold more copies than any other book except Bible….. close to 30 million copies sold….

The book was almost titled quoting the end line,  “Tomorrow is another day”; but the publisher at the time noted there were several books close to the same title, so Margret was asked to find another title that became, ” Gone with the Wind “, which again is a monologue in the book where the main characters wonders … if her home was also had ” gone with the wind which had swept through Georgia” ….  but finds that her home stood as tall her courage.

With such an accolade, movie based on this book should be equally worthy and that’s what is ” Gone with the Wind “  for you….. really a long movie almost 3 hrs 45 mins of your day if you are set to watch ……. nonetheless  not a movie to miss.

It has lot more feathers to add to its cap …..  Read about the awards galore here —- Awards

Movie is a Romantic drama set during  American Civil War & its Reconstruction  … Movie opens in to the opulent back drop of cotton plantaion & the idyllic life of the rich & wealthy with parties and gossip .

The strory is woven around the protagonist Scarlett O’Hara who is charm  personified … but as the movies rolls you can clearly see she is epitome of solid mental strength and she tries her best not to be a weakling while batling through life….

As most of Love stories the plot unwinds with strong emotions like treachery, jealousy , conceit ,deciet,  infidelity , betrayal, passion …….. at the same time it also brings the naked macabre scenes of gruesome death and blood of wartime tyranny and the compassionate selfless help that was expected of people… best part, how the royalty coped with it….

Scarlett an vivacious spirit infatuated with a man  [ Who is deeply in love with another girl ] tries to snatch him with her wiked charm…… and just to begrudge him gets married to another friend….. loses him at war time and tries to find every reason to dance & party unable to cope up with widowhood…..Looks after a girl she despised during war… becomes a volunteer to serve wounded soldiers…. when the  war  drains her she longs to go home…. and wishes her home ‘ Tara’ is not  burnt down in the fire of the yankee war…

She sets on a long journey saving a young mother with the infant to her home  to be greeted by the barren land and what is left of home from the fury of the  war …. with most of the slaves gone… Mother dead… father demented… sisters sick with typhoid….. she puts her heart and soul to make home a place to live for for all f them….. she tries to desperately profess her love again… but realises she has lost it now because of the baby …… To save her home from taxes she also proposes to become mistress… But eventually cons her sisrer’s fiancee to marry her and gets hold of the business he was running & makes it more profitable…….. Loses this husband also in an mishap…..

Finally Settles down with a man she begrudgingly acknowledges for wealth & passion ……. Life seems all good as the husband lets her have the best of everything … her home Tara put back into life… has a beautiful child .. great society life again……

For once her husband will be the best one any girl could wish for … but for their own confusions in the past, both can not openly declare the true love and keep daring each other…. She loses her child and the husband grief stricken by the loss … blinded by the doubt he has always on her old flame….. Leaves her for ever without caring the love she confesses ll along leaving Scarlett alone again … in her life that she Resorts to her original strength ……… her Home TARA…..  Hoping Tomorrow would b another day… that would get her love back!!!

 

A great movie ….. I could not tear my eyes off the screen all along…. You bet worth your time!!!

Cheerio………..

You can Win……… too …… Impresses Anybody….

 

Most of the times Reading a book gives focus on thoughts that are there at the back of our minds … which we generally fail to word….. But as you read through … It sounds Awesome….

Some sentences that impressed me as I read… ” You Can Win ” By  Shiv Khera…. I will log it for myself….

When you go digging for an ounce of GOLD … you have to move TONS of DIRT … but .. When you go digging you do not look at dirt, you go looking for the GOLD

Nagative people always Criticize

paralysis by analysis is one worst disease

Count your blessings, not your troubles.

Learn to Learn

You need to become seeker of GOOD

Foolish people have strange kind of confidance that comes with ignorance.

Past glory and education does not count much… we need to shrpen our Axe.

Persons character is not only judged by the company they keep but also the company they avoid.

Using Profanity is lack of vocabulary, self-control & Discipline.

You need to keep your mind on What you want , not on what you don’t want.

……….

 Not ‘The End’ as I have not finished the book ….. so ….. Will edit this post ….. as my journey through the book continues  ……

 

Cheerio

Building Positive Attitude is Easy… Shiv Khera says…….

The gr8 Eight steps….. as said by SHIV……… 

 #    Change Focus, Look for the Positive

#     Make a habit of Doing it NOW

#     Develop an Attitude of Gratitude

#     Get into continuous Education Program

#     Build positive Self-esteem

#     Stay away from Negative Influences

#     Learn to like things that needs to be done

#     Start yoour day with something Positive.

” If you are going to change your life, you need to start immediately “ 

 So   Start off….. 

Cheerioooo..

Money…. is what money does!!!

Money isn’t Everything ….. is the …. Greatest philosophy of people who does not have it… ..  

There is Jewish proverb that says “ With Money in your pocket, You are wise… You are Handsome and You can sing well too”…. 

Money is what Money does….

That’s all…. Now can you believe that?? There are people in the world who do not know what they want to do with the money if they have money… the just to have it … Ooops have lots of it.. but here again they do not know  how much lots of  it is…. .. U see if the reason of having money is just for the heck of feeling rich… believe me either you do not get to earn that kind of money or that the money will make you feel lost…  

Guess what ??  You need to have a compelling reason to have Money… and more so… the quantifying amount of money.. Most of us are uncomfortable to quantify money .. How many of us can Dream…… having a million in the bank account…. But all of are very comfortable in saying … Big bank balance?? Now how BIG is Big?? 

People have hell lot of reasons to NOT  to think of money…… They say if you concentrate on money making….you lose on family … Friends….. Joys of life …even peace of mind… sounds common isn’t ?? 

Why can we not think of saying …… This amount of money .. can bring so much of  comfort to family… We can meet friends often…. We can ensure joys of life and thus have stress free mind???

 Have a purpose in the pursuit of making money then its not the money that drives the life. It’s that compelling reason…..Money by itself is nothing.. ….Sure…. BUT it’s a fabulous machine that  can make us get so many things…… 

So use money only with a reason….. then it becomes powerful….serves all the purpose in life… Do not desire money … but have passion for what money can fulfill… then is when you are using money only as a tool to achieve your purposes in life!!

 What so ever the Compelling  reason to earn money … if one is not passionate about the reason…. Or if one has not discovered the reason to earn money ……You can not earn Money…

So  ……  Unleash  your desires….. Discover your compelling reasons to have money…. The sooner you do it… you will find ways to have Money….

One last thing…….. Make your reasons  progressive ….. and you will see your channel for earning money just widens…..

That’s MY  thought process…. You need not do it… I am not  the Loser……

Cheerio…..

Times of India Drives !!! The Country

 

People are yet to forget the Ad created by Times group ….. ” India Poised “ with Amitabh Bachchan….. that great thounderous voice which pulsated the hearts of youth India….

TOI  has  come up with the next best Ad campaign with none other than king Khan to voice   ” Lead India “   … to enthrall the youth… and make them spring into action …

Rest is to Wait.. and Watch the respones … of ……. Responsible Citizens…..

Cheeriooo 

My hand at photography!!

‘ Graphy’?? Representation!! .. Expression!! But combined with an art ‘Foto” can be potent mixture..I am trying!!.. as usual ………………     To get hang of this form of science!!

I started ‘ My – Flickr ‘……….Nagaje_lens’ my first shots.[  Scroll  on the right u  C ]……… Lets see how I can grow my repository!! I will want to be a ‘Pro’ but then each one has to take toddler’s steps rgt??? …

I have  started my crawling I want to sprint though Will update as often as possible…

Cheerioooo  

Take your road to heaven !!!!!

How many of us are happy with our jobs???……Le’mme take a guess!! … Not many ………

In fact when it comes to JOB …………..I am damn sure nobody is happy …….  

There is something they keep looking out for in the name of career pathing…. .. Or whatever…Else how do you answer to the stifling problem Attrition????? Which each big buck company is striving hard to reduce??? 

Why does a job become dissatisfaction???? B’coz that’s not what we really want to do!! 

 Though most of the times some of us are not even aware of what we want to!!  

Now why these side-tracked careers happen in the first place??!!?? Blame our up-bringing or our good old education system… there is no space for Innovation….. Thinking….Individuality. Let alone get passionate about anything at all……

 Many of us study to get a job or even professional career but are we really trying to tap the inert potential …. 

Believe me each of us are good …. Infact … We can best in some or the other ……. Human beings are GIFTED!! and have no doubt  on this… take a good look at yourself…… I do  think you do trust yourself!!  

There are enough of people out there who had everything going good who bought a flat and a fancy car and fat salary with loads of platinum credit cards to add spice … but one fine day they left everything and took their road to heaven….. and believe me it was the road least expected!! Daringly different and that gave solace to their lives!!  

The change in career was entirely 180 degree shift …. IT to a Restaurant Owner.. IIT to Catering….. HR to Drama….Quality to Marketing….Advertising to Holistic healing… hmm… now that’s what I call CHANGE!!! 

 And all they can say is the inner craving … childhood dream….everything seemed dull and drab… it just happened one day….. kinds….Well any regrets … BIG HECK NO!!! Never want to return back …….. and are content !! 

Wrote so much.. Am I content???? With what I am doing……….Hey boss that is what I am trying to scream out loud……   No I am NOT…..Are you …???? I know U are not too………….;-)

 Time to take a look  at what you are doing  !!! and think what you want to do!!