Detachment !! Love more ??

Detachment—like love, it’s a state of being …Detachment is about the soul leaving everything behind and ‘journeying’ to its Lord.

 

One of the reasons I took to the concept of detachment like a duck to water was that I was compelled by the argument that,

When you  are in love—with a person or a thing—is that it becomes the centre of our inner universe. .Over a period of time that person’s  world began to stop revolving around you. This causes friction because that person  will  still the centre of your universe.  Its an universal phenomenon In some way or other, it will change. You are sure to get into depression, you become desperate you feel like running away from everything .. Irony of the tragedy is that you know that is not the answer and is not possible.

Now take a different look at the situation.. nothing will ever change because you want it to change. You need to change …….. nothing in the world asked you to make a person center of our universe that is today making you desolate. Set yourself free… in fact set the person free rather than placing him/ her in the center of your universe binding or compelling them to be there.

Your identity will change your outlook will change the same person can become everything of your life now without confining to the space of your universe. you now become two independent but vastly interconnected people 🙂

There is a saying  “Live free of love, for its very peace is anguish; Its beginning is pain, its end is death.”

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Thus  detachment is freedom. Freedom from the bonds of deluding and unrealistic expectations in relationships. To be detached is to let go, of that  anxiety-driven desperation demolishes you frantically want to preserve.

 

One should enjoy the beauty relationship without being caught in its possessive grasp. Possessiveness is a poison : whereas detachment lets you stand by yourself & still be an integral part  relationship.

 

 
It is more about giving space & having your own to explore. By being detached we can get out of that prison if false sense of protection and enjoy the limitless avenue that you can be proud of and soar into unbound horizon . Detachment by itself does not mean separation its just that its more care , faith & courage to an enriched wholesome relation.

 

 

Cheers.

Buddhism…. my first look

 I picked these from Buddhism concepts . They seem Interesting and Just . Good for anyone to follow as you will not find a reason not to do 🙂

Some good deeds :

1. Do not kill
2. Do not steal
3. Do not indulge in sexual misconduct
4. No lying
5. No double-tongued speech
6. No abusive speech
7. No irresponsible speech
8. No greed
9. No hatred
10. No delusion

The first three are  Body deeds. The last three are Mind deeds. The remaining four  are deeds performed by Speech.   Body, speech and mind are the three means of actions.

Actions can be evil /good.

Apart from avoiding the evil actions, one can take positive attitude in performing the good actions. The Ten Meritorious Deeds allow people to gain a happy and peaceful life as well as to develop knowledge and understanding are:

1. Charity
2. Morality / Taking Precepts
3. Mental cultivation / Meditation
4. Reverence or respect
5. Services in helping others
6. Transference of merits
7. Rejoicing in the merits of others
8. Preaching and teaching Dharma
9. Listening to the Dharma
10. Straightening one’s own views

 

Not Converting into Buddhism ….. But These are the way of life I can relate to .

 

Cheers………..

Ego – Hurts / Kills / Destryos — The Actual you.

I guess Ego is an Illusion most of us prefer to live with …. Making no sense ?? Read on…

What is you  ???  Who are you ? ? How many of us can really think for a while and answer??

Are you your Name ? Job ? Car ? House ? Horse ? Family ……. Oooops I can go on and on…. But are these you ? They all give us an outer  ‘ You’  … But Does  that make you????

Nopes …. The  ” Inner you ” …..You … Yourself ….. is different .. . that only YOU know.  But inspite of knowing this we try to attach ourseleves to the  limitless things of  the ” Outer self ” and try to identify ourselves with it…

In  the process we lose oueselves… So What is ego?? Ego is this wrongful identification of Self with the ” Outer self ” … and this manifests itself  into ourself so much that we live with it & we identify ourself with Ego. Our ego is a mix of  Emotions & Thoughts . Only when we can detach ourself  from these two we can be ourself.

Someone has said :   ” Life is a Drama and the stage is Set…. We are actors…. ” May be that we embody ourself so much with the role tht we forget ourself … I guess It’s time we remember ourselves…. Feel the ” real self ” … It will be a great   ” Home Coming ” …….

By recognising self …. We will rise above the life’s problems with better self consciousness … We will be Happy , Calm  & Strong … We will be at peace with Self.

This is called inner peace .  Silence of mind.

Hmmmmm…… Sleepy 🙂

Cheeriooooooo.